skylights
i love
- Joined
- Jul 6, 2010
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 6w7
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
Obnoxious as it sounds, I feel like I've won the typological lottery a lot of the time. I wouldn't choose to be anything other than who I am. Displaying my type feels oddly ostentatious. Like a Harvard grad who feels the need to drop the H-bomb five seconds into meeting them.
This is funny to me. I looked at Harvard when applying to colleges and remember one of the downsides mentioned was that while it is a beautiful and prestigious college replete with competence, opportunity, and resources, it also often hosts a highly competitive atmosphere with many success-driven students, and because of the graduate focus, undergrads can miss out on warm personalized faculty attention unless they really, really push for it. Granted, I did not go Harvard - I didn't even end up visiting it - and do not know the truth of its situation, but that informational bit strikes me a lot like how I feel like being an ENTJ would be. Different priorities are more important to me and I have a different sort of perspective so hearing that you feel like you're "winning" is sort of amusingly out in left field for me. I'm genuinely glad that you like being your type, though.
At the same time, I feel that there's a lot of pressure to "act out" one's type when it is displayed prominently. Like, I feel less able to be myself and more conscious of a certain stereotype. It seems unbalanced after a certain point.
I feel almost the opposite, like when I have my full type displayed I feel like I have to make it clear how I deviate so I'm not assumed to be the "standard model" when that assumption might undermine the point I'm trying to convey. In my case e6 really messes with J/P on the MBTI.