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Something positive about your type opposite

proteanmix

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What qualities do you admire about your typological opposite? There will be no bitching about ESFJs et. al in this thread. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

The only ISTP I know very well is my sister. I don't know how many things I appreciate about her are type-related. I like how she's very laid back about most things and is way less combustible than me. She's always saying these wry little statements that keeps everyone in stitches. In some ways, she's more patient with people than I am and more accepting of who they are, without trying to change them. I also find her to be industrious and clever, able to spin situations to her advantage very quickly, when I'm still trying to figure out the what the hell just happened.
 

Totenkindly

@.~*virinaĉo*~.@
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BELF
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sx/sp
ESFJ
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Engaged
Hospitable
Confident / Self-Assured
Purposeful
Assertive
Usually personable
Active
 

cafe

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My Grandpa was an ESTP. :wubbie:

Outgoing
Confident
Charming
Fun
Mechanically inclined
Good networking abilities
Good storytellers
Dapper
Generous
Athletic
 

Xander

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I love the ESFJ facets I've managed to control. Just setting an objective, NOT analysing the crap out of it and going for it with complete conviction! It's amazing what I can do when that part comes to the fore. I've even been known to arrive on time once or twice ;)

Unfortunately I've yet to meet a confirmed ESFJ so the shadow of my own profile is my only guide but based on my father's analysis of that they would appear to be fantastic people especially for goal orientated stuff.

Bet they've got a big red button linked to the blue touch paper too :devil:
You gotta admire someone with a hot temper :D
 

Jasz

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i love ESFJ's, except when they are under stress and start to micromanage.

i second fortunato's list and would also put engaging at the top of the ESFJ quality i appreciate.
 

Totenkindly

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You gotta admire someone with a hot temper :D

Yes, there is a deep and secret part of me that admires them and wishes I could just passionately lay into someone or push forward without second-guessing myself or hindering myself by thinking about things first. What a feeling of efficacy and power.

(As long as they're not doing it to ME, anyway.)
 

Martoon

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My mother is an ESFJ (only moderately strong on the E and F, but she's about as SJ as a person could possibly be). I've honestly never known anyone who works so relentlessly to help other people. It's virtually impossible to get her to think about herself. She spent this past Mother's Day running around doing things for every other mother she knows. She's incredibly resourceful. Growing up, things were extremely tight financially (we often couldn't buy food), but we were always well fed. I'm convinced she could make tiramisu out of turnips, if the situation warranted. Our family took in 38 foster children (no, not all at once), many of whom she still maintains contact with and helps out. Her identity consists of helping other people. She's in her 70's now with failing health, and we still can't get her to slow down.

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
One of her favorite phrases. ;)
 

Geoff

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ESXJ.

I have two good work ESXJ friends, in fact!

They are good at getting stuff done, well grounded in life, excellent at offering support on the work front. They are great listeners.. it isnt "all about them" they like to offer advice as well as receive it.

They are dedicated and technically very able on areas they specialise in (great at picking up my mistakes, too!)

-Geoff
 

Totenkindly

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They are good at getting stuff done, well grounded in life, excellent at offering support on the work front. They are great listeners.. it isnt "all about them" they like to offer advice as well as receive it.

Yes, the good ones are excellent at that. They also are very good at offering PRACTICAL (rather than theoretical) advice for life problems. When I interacted with one coworker, she would ask me about the underlying concepts of things in her life in order to "orient" herself and lay a good foundation of thinking, whereas she would offer me very practical and active and specific steps I could take to resolve my issues.
 

nottaprettygal

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Hrm. ESFPs. . .

They actually do all of the slutty things that I only think about in my head. It's admirable.
 

Lookin4theBestNU

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Dominant Ti + Fun = ISTP :D !

I find most of them are sharply intelligent, witty and humorous. They most often tend to take a non-judgmental view towards things. I like to see their creativity applied to things they see in the physical world and are crafty people. They are people who pride themselves on physical prowess which I admire. I love the lack of hesitation and self-assurance that goes hand-in-hand with it. I find them to be adventurous. I don't necessarily mean like the sky-diving adventurous stereotype, but willing to try just about anything. I love too that once you get to know them and uncover the many layers of who they are, the wealth that you find is amazing. I find them to generally be fearless. I know that when they decide to actually use/attempt Fe it comes out almost child-like, naive and yet sincere. They can even have sentimental side. The temper they have when faced with things that challenge what they know for some reason is something I like too. I think it has to do with the determination they have to figure it out. All in all, ISTPs rock IMO and have only met one I couldn't stand.

( I am married to my typological opposite & have ISTP friends so I have a bias and probably idealize them, so be it.)
 

girlnamedbless

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My opposite is the INTP.. INTPs are very intelligent. I only know one INTP and he is my teacher. I admire him because he is very smart, and sarcastically funny. He sort of is charasmatic. :)
 

Maverick

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MBTI Type
ENTJ
ISFP:

Gets along with everyone
Modest
Artistic
Harmonizing
Very aware of 5 senses
Patient
 

LadyInWaiting

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MBTI Type
INFP
ESTJ:

Efficient
courageous in a crisis
able to lead with confidence and strength
practical
source of simple yet profound pieces of wisdom (i.e. Judge Judy)
able to cut past the b.s.
able to articulate their opinions without apology
genuinely try to help people
good business sense
high achieving
seem to usually have good self-esteem
see people as they are and not as they want them to be
fiercely loyal and for a long time
concerned with the community
direct and clear communicators
 

niffer

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Instinctual Variant
sx/sp
ISTJ

really small printing
notices all the little details
insane self-discipline
catch-you-off-guard sense of humour
master of planning and prioritizing
excellent partner in crime
happy to be seen as corrupt
 

Littlelostnf

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ENFJ
ISTP
-Warning bais ahead-
My father is an ISTP and he's fantastic.

Curious
intelligent
funny
spontaneous
flexible
laid back
free spirt
 

Shimpei

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ISFJ
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I have yet to meet an ENTP in real life.
Digesthisickness is one of the funniest girls I've met online.
 

bluebell

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I think one of my friends is eSFJ.

If so, positive traits of ESFJs include being caring, thoughtful, reliable and very giving.
 
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