Something positive about your type opposite

[proteanmix]

What qualities do you admire about your typological opposite? There will be no bitching about ESFJs et. al in this thread. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

The only ISTP I know very well is my sister. I don't know how many things I appreciate about her are type-related. I like how she's very laid back about most things and is way less combustible than me. She's always saying these wry little statements that keeps everyone in stitches. In some ways, she's more patient with people than I am and more accepting of who they are, without trying to change them. I also find her to be industrious and clever, able to spin situations to her advantage very quickly, when I'm still trying to figure out the what the hell just happened.

[Totenkindly]

ESFJ
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Engaged
Hospitable
Confident / Self-Assured
Purposeful
Assertive
Usually personable
Active

[cafe]

My Grandpa was an ESTP.

Outgoing
Confident
Charming
Fun
Mechanically inclined
Good networking abilities
Good storytellers
Dapper
Generous
Athletic

[Xander]

I love the ESFJ facets I've managed to control. Just setting an objective, NOT analysing the crap out of it and going for it with complete conviction! It's amazing what I can do when that part comes to the fore. I've even been known to arrive on time once or twice

Unfortunately I've yet to meet a confirmed ESFJ so the shadow of my own profile is my only guide but based on my father's analysis of that they would appear to be fantastic people especially for goal orientated stuff.

Bet they've got a big red button linked to the blue touch paper too
You gotta admire someone with a hot temper

[Jasz]

i love ESFJ's, except when they are under stress and start to micromanage.

i second fortunato's list and would also put engaging at the top of the ESFJ quality i appreciate.

[Totenkindly]

You gotta admire someone with a hot temper

Yes, there is a deep and secret part of me that admires them and wishes I could just passionately lay into someone or push forward without second-guessing myself or hindering myself by thinking about things first. What a feeling of efficacy and power.

(As long as they're not doing it to ME, anyway.)

[Jasz]

You gotta admire someone with a hot temper

unless he/she is your boss, that can get pretty ugly ..

[Martoon]

My mother is an ESFJ (only moderately strong on the E and F, but she's about as SJ as a person could possibly be). I've honestly never known anyone who works so relentlessly to help other people. It's virtually impossible to get her to think about herself. She spent this past Mother's Day running around doing things for every other mother she knows. She's incredibly resourceful. Growing up, things were extremely tight financially (we often couldn't buy food), but we were always well fed. I'm convinced she could make tiramisu out of turnips, if the situation warranted. Our family took in 38 foster children (no, not all at once), many of whom she still maintains contact with and helps out. Her identity consists of helping other people. She's in her 70's now with failing health, and we still can't get her to slow down.

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

One of her favorite phrases.

[Geoff]

ESXJ.

I have two good work ESXJ friends, in fact!

They are good at getting stuff done, well grounded in life, excellent at offering support on the work front. They are great listeners.. it isnt "all about them" they like to offer advice as well as receive it.

They are dedicated and technically very able on areas they specialise in (great at picking up my mistakes, too!)

-Geoff

[Totenkindly]

They are good at getting stuff done, well grounded in life, excellent at offering support on the work front. They are great listeners.. it isnt "all about them" they like to offer advice as well as receive it.

Yes, the good ones are excellent at that. They also are very good at offering PRACTICAL (rather than theoretical) advice for life problems. When I interacted with one coworker, she would ask me about the underlying concepts of things in her life in order to "orient" herself and lay a good foundation of thinking, whereas she would offer me very practical and active and specific steps I could take to resolve my issues.