Viridian
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- MBTI Type
- IsFJ
It means that Feelers primarily give value preference to ethics/morals and relationships with people, sometimes via feelings yet this should not be confused with making feelings based upon "emotion" though it can happen.
Thinkers primarily give value preference to logic and rational detachment, to systems and ideas and getting things done rather than necessarily through relationships with people...but it's readily apparent that Thinkers get carried away with their emotions in certain situations, or when discussing certain topics, and they can have ethics and morals, too, of course.
There's nothing scarier to me than a Thinker who thinks they're being rational when they're not, and who denies getting carried away with their feelings in some discussions. Seriously - it creeps me the fuck out. How do you reason with someone like that? At least Feelers will usually admit they make decisions based upon morals and ethics, and occasionally feelings, giving priority to relationships, and generally use logic as a tool of support for the broader framework.
For example, I make most life decisions with human concerns and ethical concerns in mind. But I also use Te to make decisions about "what works" and when weighing my ethics against "what works"...realizing that justice and systems of law work better than always being merciful, etc.
As an ENFP, I certainly have a baby STJ inside of me who likes to collect facts. But that's my secondary concern, rather than my primary. A healthy individual becomes more balanced as they age.
Also, I noticed that Arclight put this all quite simply and correctly.
It should be noted, though, that Feeling is not always merciful - some unhealthy Feelers can surprise both Ts and Fs by how petty they are. (Not that Ts can't be petty, especially if Feeling is neglected enough to become moldy and rotten inside them.)
I'd say a good distinction is that Ts tend to become contentious in matters of systems and strategy ("Your plan will doom the entire company!") while Fs tend to become contentious in matters of relationships and feelings ("You are being abusive!"). Ts can also fulfill a "caretaker" or "crusader" role, though they will focus on less personal aspects ("tough love", learning to be diligent and put effort into your work / subverting the system in order to create a new paradigm).
That sound right?