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This is kind of interesting to me. For the past 15 years people have been telling my wife and I that we look like brother and sister. Despite being MBTI polar opposites, we have many similarities, such as fitness habits, lifestyle choices, taste in foods, music, etc. There just might be something to what you said. We choose people who remind us of the parts of ourselves we like in some way, in some cases physical, and in others differently maybe. Hmmm.
I do know that when I met my wife's Dad, I was kind of shocked in that he is a gregarious extravert like me (maybe ESFX) and when he was younger he had long hair and was fit, like I am now. So somehow, I have thought that my wifey may have selected me as part of a subliminal Electra complex.
LOL this is not unusual for people to be attracted to really similar people. I have met other couples who even describe their partner as "they look like my sibling" or other people looking think that. That's also why real life siblings sometimes get mistaken for couples - all strangers read sometimes is your comfort/intimacy with one another, not the kind of closeness . Or actual couples get mistaken for siblings (I've seen this more with same sex couples).
As for choosing people that remind you of your parents or siblings, I think that's true more when the person actually had a *good* relationship with their parent. It does make sense in that they are already used to and comfortably having hopefully a good, functional relationship with a 'type' of person (using Typology, a person with X,Y,Z dominant functions).
I think it's more interesting when a person keeps dating 'the same person' over and over. I'm not really sure how to take that, to be flattered or you know, the opposite of flattered.