I have highlighted abuse of Fe. Your point would have been just as "logically" correct, but you feel the need to attack AND twist the knife. Do you know how to argue or discuss without this twist? Maybe it is people like you who cause these Fi doms to create these conspiracy theories and to dislike categorization. Why do you FEEL the need to bring in loaded words? Can you not get your point across without them?
I could, but that wouldn't be as much fun.
I have two basic modes of interaction here:
1) Polite and informative--I use this when I think there's a reasonable chance someone will listen to me and respond with something meaningful.
2) Arrogant and abrasive--I use this when someone clearly isn't interested in learning or listening to any new information. In this case, lurker obviously didn't read the thread in the first place, or he wouldn't have filled his entire post with straw men that I've already addressed, which suggests to me that he's uninterested in listening to my point--so why should I be interested in listening to his?
From a REAL Ti perspective you would initially go back and try to understand "why" they got this from what you said, then turn to the other person to help figure out why. You see Ti is about understanding.
I already know why he got this--he didn't read the thread.
You unload Fe and I will unload Fe
You are being just as EMO as you claim Fis to be, you just have this urge to turn that EMO back on others with Fe.
I can unload at will, lets see how good you are at it
Go for it. I have no interest in real communication with people who try to poke holes in my arguments without bothering to read them first.
If he'd read the thread, he'd already know that none of the concerns he brought up actually represent my views, but he didn't, so he got a flippant Fe response. It's quite simple, really.
Agreed.
I might have read too much into your posts, SW, but that's mainly because of their charming style. If one says things in the manner of "I said I don't hate you, so you can shut up and f*ck off already", how do you think the message comes across?
Do you think the receiver will focus on the first part, or the second part?
I make a conscious decision to use an abrasive style when it's apparent (as in this case) that the other poster hasn't made any effort to read my thoughts/consider what I'm saying before mouthing off. If I respond to you in this manner it's because I don't think you've bothered to listen/think about it and I have no interest in attempting useful discourse with you.
You can find other posts where I use a neutral or otherwise inoffensive tone, in cases where I think the other poster is listening and giving my point legitimate consideration. If you show up and immediately spout off three totally inaccurate descriptions of my position, it's evident that you didn't make any effort to understand me, so I'm not going to make any to understand you.
The thing is, you might have a point sometimes but you frequently kill it with your arrogant and hostile style. INFPs are very sensitive to this, so there's no wonder they get annoyed. And you seem to know that; you wrote yourself you like provoking them. So you provoke them, they react, and you victoriously reply you expected the reaction. Most sensitive people react negatively to deliberate hostility and arrogance, but you don't seem to take this into consideration.
It's extraordinary to me that people don't think I know that. You don't think I'm consciously using abrasive tone? It's my way of telling you that I don't care enough about your opinion to ask for clarification in a polite manner. This is what I do for people who are too lazy to bother informing themselves before mouthing off.
People who
bother reading my posts before slamming them tend to get much friendlier responses.
