What do Ts get from Fs in a relationship?

[Saslou]

Actually I think many Fs like the directness and the freedom to be direct about what they feel themselves. But of course it likely wont happen instantly.

Oh yes. Please just say it how it is.

 

[Stanton Moore]

they will learn to enjoy chocolate cake.

Thoroughly.

 

[01011010]

I learn to not always immediately jump into problem solving mode when approached with someone being upset. I learn to listen and relate to people instead of focusing solely on issues.

Yes. It never even dawned on me that there was another way to approach a situation like that. I still fall back on problem solving more than the latter though.

How willing are Fs to compromise in terms of the Ts need for forthrightness?

This ended my most recent relationship. We battled over it for more than 2 years. She would often lie at first, which meant it would take even longer to solve a problem. It was draining.

I bought and studied books on etiquette and even went to a class with my ENTJ sis on how to be nice. And it's working.

I've done the same. Books and classes.



OP: Fs are capable of giving Ts the same thing that other Ts can. Yet, it can appear to occur in completely different ways. Affection and love is a human trait, not a type one.

 

[Thalassa]

Couldn't Fs give Ts kind of a "safe place" to allow themselves to be more emotional, which is a human need regardless of type?

 

[jenocyde]

If I feel emotions, I ride them until they are done. What more room would I need?

 

[Synarch]

Warmth. Someone who doesnt run away when we're in a mood. Awareness of a whole level of reality we wouldn't have known of otherwise. A complementary intellect. Home is people for me, and I think that he could be someone I consider home. For a woman of my type, there arent a lot of men whod provide that without feeling the need to crush her first. Whereas I get the sense that if I were to fall in love with an INFP, the dynamic would be complex but binding nonetheless.

I can see that.

I like F types because they believe things mean something. I believe this, too, but I often don't feel it. It is healing for me to be around people who care about things other than whether something is interesting or right. T types seem to always want to make a point about something, whereas F types seem to just value relationships a bit more. I find they can bring out my latent caring for other people.

 

[BlackCat]

Yes. It never even dawned on me that there was another way to approach a situation like that. I still fall back on problem solving more than the latter though.

I actually do that too.

This ended my most recent relationship. We battled over it for more than 2 years. She would often lie at first, which meant it would take even longer to solve a problem. It was draining.

I really, really hate it when people do that. I don't see what the point of doing that is, fluffing up the problem and not accepting the truth.

 

[violet_crown]

Actually I think many Fs like the directness and the freedom to be direct about what they feel themselves. But of course it likely wont happen instantly.

I have no doubts that Fs are immensely in tune with themselves, but experience has taught me that what an F will think/feel and how they will actually interact with you arent exactly one and the same. Its difficult to spend time constantly second guessing someone youre intimate with. Obviously, youre going to have suppose the best of the other person after a certain point, but its apparently a fairly common source of tension

 

[Thalassa]

If I feel emotions, I ride them until they are done. What more room would I need?

Not everyone is like you, though. Some people have a need to let their logical guard down. It might not apply to you as an individual, but to some other Ts.

 

[poppy]

Couldn't Fs give Ts kind of a "safe place" to allow themselves to be more emotional, which is a human need regardless of type?

I think Fs give us a safe place where we don't have to worry about being logical and precise and can relax, but not necessarily a place to be more emotional. That assumes that Ts aren't emotional because they're concerned about the image or stigma associated with expressing their feelings, and that they require a place where it is "ok" to do so, which isn't necessarily true.

EDIT: It'd be like saying that Fs need a place where it's "ok" to be logical.

And BlackCat, you win at being an F

 

[Costrin]

I think Fs give us a safe place where we don't have to worry about being logical and precise and can relax, but not necessarily a place to be more emotional. That assumes that Ts aren't emotional because they're concerned about the image or stigma associated with expressing their feelings, and that they require a place where it is "ok" to do so, which isn't necessarily true.

Well it's kinda true for me. I'm not exactly concerned with the image of expressing my feelings, but in general it's just awkward and makes me feel vulnerable. In fact, they can float by unconsciously and not be noticed until someone brings them out, which an F would be more likely to be interested in.

 

[poppy]

Well it's kinda true for me. I'm not exactly concerned with the image of expressing my feelings, but in general it's just awkward and makes me feel vulnerable. In fact, they can float by unconsciously and not be noticed until someone brings them out, which an F would be more likely to be interested in.

Sure, I see no reason why it wouldn't be true for at least some Ts.

 

[jenocyde]

Not everyone is like you, though. Some people have a need to let their logical guard down. It might not apply to you as an individual, but to some other Ts.

I know that, but I can only answer this question from my own perspective. I don't feel guarded.

 

[Virtual ghost]

Would Fs be bothered if I say that we get something interesting to study ?

 

[Saslou]

Would Fs be bothered if I say that we get something interesting to study ?

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Would i not be studying you also.

 

[heart]

It's obvious what Fs get from Ts...

Is it?

 

[violet_crown]

Is it?

Course. Good lucks, rakish charm, earth-shattering brilliance...oh, wait, I'm talking about myself again.

 

[BlackCat]

Course. Good lucks, rakish charm, earth-shattering brilliance...oh, wait, I'm talking about myself again.

 

[Thalassa]

It's obvious what Fs get from Ts

Criticism?

 

[Lauren Ashley]

^That.