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Bad true things about you (shake your self-pity away, THEN write plz)

nightning

ish red no longer *sad*
Joined
Apr 23, 2007
Messages
3,741
MBTI Type
INfj
insecure
envious of success in others
emotionally volatile but I never let it out
prone to dwell on past mistakes
far too critical of self (sell myself short)
pessimistic
 

anii

homo-loving sonovagun
Joined
Jul 9, 2007
Messages
901
MBTI Type
infp
Enneagram
9
- I procrastinate.
- I don't floss like I should.
- I covet others' successes, mates, talents, etc.
- I can usually manage stress, but once overly stressed, I kneejerk back to learned helplessness and passive victimhood.
- I suck at logic.
 

Economica

Dhampyr
Joined
Apr 23, 2007
Messages
2,054
MBTI Type
INTJ
Excellent thread topic, Santtu! I'm finding the most self-aware replies very interesting. :yay:

... And I really wasn't expecting an INTJ reply like Shaula's. :shock: :nice:

- I have difficultly taking responsibility for my mistakes and often find ways to blame it on others.

I think I'm getting over this one as I work through my perfectionism (and after having first gotten over my closed-minded certitude), but warping reality so that I am not at fault is definitely a tendency that I have to watch out for.

... On the plus side (sorry, but it's on-topic re: OP!) this tendency also means I can provide my own encouraging environment and thus don't need others to help me rationalize my negatives.

^ Case in point. :D

- I have difficultly initiating projects because I'm afraid of screwing it up. If it isn't perfect then it was a failure.

Yesss! :doh:

I used to have an innocence on this score, an arrogant certainty that I could execute any vision I had if I put my mind to it, but now I know that 1) in all visions involving other people there are all sorts of critical factors which are outside my control :dry: and 2) my visions are not as perfect as I once thought. :cry: The combination of these two reality checks was paralyzing for several years and I am only now making baby steps to test my effectiveness after having been humbled by them.

- I'm afraid of uncertainty and try to avoid it as much as possible.

+1. Gray areas and unknowns are stressful to me.

- I become hostile if I loose an argument and arrogant if I win. I hate loosing so much that if I can't win then I'll find a way to take the other person down with me.

Uhh... :whistling:

I actually think I've all but completely gotten over this one by now though. :happy:

- I'm not nearly as caring or humble as I make myself out to be.

Hmm. I don't think I make myself out to be more caring or humble than I really feel, at least not with those in my inner circle. However, it could be that I'm just not very conscious of adapting my persona for public consumption.

(The above doubt applies to RL. I'm quite sure I don't make myself out to be more caring or humble than I really feel here on the board. ;))

- I'm very critical and demanding of those who are close to me. I'm constantly trying to influence them that my way is the only right way.

What's that INTJ tagline - I know a better way? :blush: - I think I'm getting over this*, although not so much out of growth as because influencing (and thereby taking some degree of responsibility for) others has morphed from feeling like a feather in my cap to a burden after becoming aware of 1) and 2) above and hence it's not as often worth the trouble. (It's easier to be laissez-faire! Who would've thought? :rolleyes:)

* That said, here's a recent instance of my critical coercion. :whistling:

- If I've accomplished something I feel proud of and I don't get a lot of feedback I'll 'fish for' compliments and praise.

*spits water on keyboard* Here's another recent instance. :D

- I get pretty hard on myself, sometimes self-destructive, if I'm not 'the best'. For some reason I view life like a competition.

I want to disagree with this last one, but considering how often a person in my life has felt the need to tell me that "life is not a zero-sum game", I'm guessing this is instead a problem area that I haven't even begun processing yet. :unsure:

More negatives, from least to most important:

- I'm prone to comfort eating and seemingly unable to maintain my ideal weight during stressful periods.

- I have a very poor feel for how others perceive me. Even knowing this and consciously seeking feedback, I only pick up on (and correctly interpret) the strongest of signals. Whenever I become aware of a discrepancy in how I thought others viewed me and how they actually view me, I don't know whether to laugh in bemusement (and/or relief) or cry in frustration (and/or embarrassment).

- My conscience is infantile. I hold myself to the standard of doing what is best for me, and so my actions are subject to change according to my whims with total disregard for how other people are affected. Did you take me at my word? Did you expect me to feel today what I felt yesterday? Were you unable to conceive that I would redefine my commitment? I'm so sorry for you!

I have never previously known the self-contempt which the realization of the above has taught me. Examining my actions with input from Ti users who refuse to let me warp reality is what forced the realization upon me. I can only hope that continuing to honestly look myself in the mirror will eventually nurture an integrity of my own.
 

Amargith

Hotel California
Joined
Nov 5, 2008
Messages
14,717
MBTI Type
ENFP
Enneagram
4dw
Instinctual Variant
sx/so
Lazy
Insecure
Scared of failure
too eager to please
stubborn and unreasonable when forced into something, even for my own good
Often off in other worlds and therefore unavailable to those trying to get my attention
A need to feel unique in who I am and what I do
 

The Ü™

Permabanned
Joined
May 26, 2007
Messages
11,910
MBTI Type
INTJ
Enneagram
5w6
Instinctual Variant
sp/sx
  • I am wonderful.
  • I am profound.
  • I am powerful.
  • I am intelligent.
  • I am creative.
  • I am clever.
  • I am handsome.
  • And it makes everyone else envious and want to kill me.
(Oh, and pretty much what everyone else said, too.)
 

CJ99

Is Willard in Footloose!!
Joined
Jan 5, 2009
Messages
582
MBTI Type
ENTP
I'm...

Way too hyper then way to cold with no inbetweeny bit!
Cruel to SJ type people because they annoy the hell out of me!
I under achieve constantly yet never change!
I'm cold to people just to see how they will react and too make things interesting!
I love to arue dumb people just to look good
 

CJ99

Is Willard in Footloose!!
Joined
Jan 5, 2009
Messages
582
MBTI Type
ENTP
I think it would be really interesting if we did a guess my type thing by someones weaknesses and negative points!
 

Fluffywolf

Nips away your dignity
Joined
Mar 31, 2009
Messages
9,581
MBTI Type
INTP
Enneagram
9
Instinctual Variant
sp/sx
- Inability to do anything I don't see importance in doing.


That's my one and biggest flaw, and it reflects on many things in my life. But it is also something I know I'll never change. (I got better things to do with my time! :p )
 

Quinlan

Intriguing....
Joined
Apr 6, 2008
Messages
3,004
MBTI Type
ISFP
Enneagram
9w1
I often use humour to avoid feeling about things too deeply.
 

Domino

ENFJ In Chains
Joined
Nov 5, 2007
Messages
11,429
MBTI Type
eNFJ
Enneagram
4w3
Instinctual Variant
sx/so
Recurring theme.... Why is this "bad"? It's just N.

The same reason I hate or am ashamed of my strong feelings - I can't control it. Something in the back of my mind tells me I can stay in the present if I just try hard enough, but I know that's simply delusion.
 

Quinlan

Intriguing....
Joined
Apr 6, 2008
Messages
3,004
MBTI Type
ISFP
Enneagram
9w1
-Even though I get very lonely, I make little to no effort to meet new friends because it scares me and makes me horribly uncomfortable to think about socializing at times.

+1

  • I lack any real ambition in life
  • As soon as I get a complement I'm thinking up ways to disregard it
 

Kyrielle

New member
Joined
Apr 26, 2007
Messages
1,294
MBTI Type
INFJ
Enneagram
4w5
Here's another I just discovered, much to my displeasure:

I have a deep-seated fear of pain/rejection in response to an attempt at giving physical affection.

Because of the above, I lock up when in the face of physical affection and find myself physically unable to get myself to respond to what I mentally want myself to do. Like...I cannot get/have a hard time getting my body into motion to hug someone even if I want to hug that person very badly.
 
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