Why ENFP is avoiding me ?

[Sandeep]

Hello there! I'm INTJ, My female ENFP friend told that she started liking someone. The very next day I told her that I always liked her and told her that if I didn't tell that now I'll regret for my lifetime. I clearly stated her that I'm not loving her or anything like that It's just that I think we both hit off really well & I only want her if and only if she wants. It's not like I just want her for my life or nothing. And I even supported her liking of the other person. for me she said she doesn't know what to say. It was cool for sometime but after some days she started avoiding me lightly. I asked her about this. She replied back stating that she doesn't know why she's avoiding me and later she said that I'm irritating her that's y she keeping me at distant for some time. Any ENFP guys know whats likely going on in her mind.

 

[The Cat]

On one hand....
You're dodging a bullet. Sounds like they don't know how to process your feelings so "ghosting" you seems easier. I'm betting she didnt really give you much detail into the hows/whys/wheretofore of you "irritating" her so ride on cowboy.

Of course the other side of the coin is you told her you liked her the day after she told you she liked somebody else; that's quite the rug to yank depending on what kind of friendship y'all had.

The only thing you may be able to do is just give it some time and space....

 

[Indigo Rodent]

Hello there! I'm INTJ, My female ENFP friend told that she started liking someone. The very next day I told her that I always liked her and told her that if I didn't tell that now I'll regret for my lifetime. I clearly stated her that I'm not loving her or anything like that It's just that I think we both hit off really well & I only want her if and only if she wants. It's not like I just want her for my life or nothing. And I even supported her liking of the other person. for me she said she doesn't know what to say. It was cool for sometime but after some days she started avoiding me lightly. I asked her about this. She replied back stating that she doesn't know why she's avoiding me and later she said that I'm irritating her that's y she keeping me at distant for some time. Any ENFP guys know whats likely going on in her mind.

You're irritating her, so she's keeping your at distant for some time.

 

[Yuurei]

Gawd, why an’t bitches ever just say what they mean? AmIrite dudes?

She could not have been any clearer. You are irritating her. Give her space.

On one hand....
You're dodging a bullet. Sounds like they don't know how to process your feelings so "ghosting" you seems easier. I'm betting she didnt really give you much detail into the hows/whys/wheretofore of you "irritating" her so ride on cowboy.

Of course the other side of the coin is you told her you liked her the day after she told you she liked somebody else; that's quite the rug to yank depending on what kind of friendship y'all had.

The only thing you may be able to do is just give it some time and space....

Yes, that was very poor timing.

 

[sylvia_elsie]

I was at the same situation when a friend of mine confessed his feelings towards me. I get that it is irritating because it's really hard to react when you know the other person has unreciprocated feelings, you don't want to hurt them but you also don't want them to get your friendly behaviour in a wrong manner.
I am sorry that you are hurting but listen to her and give her some space for some period, wait for this confession to neutralize both of yours' feelings. It will get better eventually.