Why do you pursue a relationship?

[Norexan]

Sex. Family. Fun. Adventure. Mental compatibility.

 

[Cellmold]

I'm going to make an effort to pursue them.

Time to push past my bullshit, accept certain realities and just do it.

 

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[ceecee]

Tax purposes + I don't like going to the movies by myself

I like this answer although I don't mind going to the movies by myself - kind of prefer it.

 

[Stigmata]

I like this answer although I don't mind going to the movies by myself - kind of prefer it.

I actually don't mind it either. Given that the expectation is for minimal noise throughout the movie, I've never really understood why people feel so insecure about being alone if you're not meant to be communicating anyway. My only guess is that the intent is on a shared experience.

 

[Schrödinger's Name]

I need someone to watch a movie with since I have the attention span of someone with ADD. Having someone who can explain/summarize what just happened is pretty handy, instead of always having to rewind. (Also; I tend to press 'pause' as soon as something awkward is going to happen... Watching a movie with someone else helps. Then I won't take me a whole day to watch a three hour long movie lmao)

Being able to rest my head on their chest and to snuggle under a blanket in a cold room is also a big plus.

 

[EllevenSevenSounds]

Initially for the hot sex and then the promise of romance and reverie.

LaTERz, for the hot sex and romance and reverie.

then the babies

and of course, finally, the promise of old age companionship and soul-kin.

Lot's of sex though littered throughout.

 

[Lexicon]

I don’t really pursue or search for relationships. I don’t feel lonely when alone, so I guess I’ve never actively felt the need to find “a someone.” Relationships happen organically for me, over time. I don’t chase love. It simply grows on its own under the right conditions.

When those conditions are right (intellectual chemistry, emotional trust, attraction, etc), I choose to foster that growth (out of a desire to maintain the connection that’s developed between us) because it’s fulfilling. It enhances my life. Love doesn’t really need reason beyond that. Share one another, grow together. And, if we grow apart, it’s okay, too. Healthy love makes us better people, in the end.

I forgot to add: personal hand warmer is a reason (or perk).
But they usually hate it.

 

[Morpeko]

I never pursued, and I never will. If I had to pursue, I'd just never be in a relationship, honestly.

Still, I've hated being single and always wanted a positive romantic relationship of some sort. I hate being alone, I hate not perceiving myself to be wanted or loved, I hate being touch-deprived, I hate everything about it. I just don't think the indecisiveness and uncertainty of having to go seek someone and getting to know them better is ever worth it.

 

[Luminous]

Typically because I can't not. The few times I have, my love and want and care draw me like a magnet to the person.

 

[GoggleGirl17]

I don't really like to approach relationships with romantic expectations. The typical timeline for those kinds of relationships does not interest me. I just want to enjoy the other person's energy and our connection without worrying about the long-term, and in my experience, that fluidity is what has allowed me to form honest and unique bonds with other people, rather than automatically and inorganically trying to force someone into a role I want them to play.

 

[Coriolis]

I don't pursue relationships. If one pursues me, though, I will evaluate whether it makes sense to reciprocate, and act accordingly.

 

[RadicalDoubt]

I have yet to pursue relationships, but am fairly open to trying them. I like the idea of trying out a relationship (and the me connected to some degree to others is a bit easier for me tolerate/brings out more healthy self behaviors), but don't pursue primarily because I have no concept of what I'd be into, hence would not like to lead people on if I guessed wrong

 

[Doctor Cringelord]

i like to be pursued and hunted. not like hunting a rabbit though. Lion hunting.

 

[LillyRoar]

I don’t. I never have. I’ve always had other things on my mind that occupied far more mental space than the tiny bit that was pondering relationships and romance. Not to say I don’t think they are important too, I think it’s lovely to be in a stimulating relationship. But I’ve always had other things on my mind and in my life that have been more fun and interesting to pursue.

But, boys have always found me and after some tug of war I’ve stepped into romantic relationships with them and my shortest relationship was 4 years and my longest 10 years. So for someone NOT actively pursuing relationships, I’ve actually been in relationships for the most part of my adult life.

 

[SgtP3pper]

I don't think of myself as "single" or "not single". There's no good time or bad time to be single or in a relationship for me. If someone is worth being around I'll be with them, otherwise I'll keep to myself.