I feel like the "reality" of a situation is so personal, so I find it difficult to define here on more broad terms. But I'll use myself as an example, sure why not? But what I mean by the reality of the situation and why I see it as a personal experience, is because I see it as this sort of personal "block", like a physical form taken from deep within, a weight so real it feels tangible. This identification, whether that be some insecurity, something abstract or perhaps even literal, "I physically can't do this or that" may seem depressing or a chain holding you down from happiness, but I'd say it feels more like a humbling experience. (For me at least, and with my block) I know I cant do this, or can't do that, I know what I'm good at and what I excel in. I know life is limited and finite, and that any experience I have is best cherished as it won't last forever, no matter how much I may idealize it so.
But what I find to be positive in these seemingly bleak outlooks or "realities" that I have in place for myself, is that I never take any moment or person for granted. This sentiment was only made much more pronounced once I lost my dad. But built in to these stresses, these limitations one could say (I feel the 7w8 may almost turn a blind eye to such things) is akin to a dominant perceiving function followed by its right hand man, an auxiliary judging function. Work the two together well enough, and that perceiving function is now more fine tuned and directed in its goals. There also seems to be this level of honesty and openness I find, where I accept things as they are, and work with them as best I can to squeeze every once of goodness out of my experiences and adventures. And like architecture, I think I actually prefer this mode of thinking, as I find myself to be the most creative when I am thrust upon so many obstacles and struggles to come up against. Sorry, that reference to architecture means that I love the field because it requires real thought to come up with something aesthetically captivating, while also ensuring it is structurally sound, follows codes, follows budget, etc. etc. I don't see architecture as this monolith of some creative expression like many architecture schools would have you believe, but I see it as an opportunity for myself.