I'm an ISTJ female but if I were him, after you told me what day you're going to come I'll plan ahead what I would do with you for the whole day and expect you to really come that day, preferably at a specific time point. I think he'd really appreciate if you confirm the plan again by telling him more details, the more the better -- you're going to arrive in what station/airport, what time, the number of your aircrafts, the color of the shirt you're going to wear to make him recognize you easier at the crowded airport, etc. If you have any idea on what you want to do or see/experience in his specific city (go to a specific museum, eat a specific traditional foods in that city) it's best if you tell him in advance.
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Trying to understand ISTJ men...!!
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I'm an ISTJ female but if I were him, after you told me what day you're going to come I'll plan ahead what I would do with you for the whole day and expect you to really come that day, preferably at a specific time point. I think he'd really appreciate if you confirm the plan again by telling him more details, the more the better -- you're going to arrive in what station/airport, what time, the number of your aircrafts, the color of the shirt you're going to wear to make him recognize you easier at the crowded airport, etc. If you have any idea on what you want to do or see/experience in his specific city (go to a specific museum, eat a specific traditional foods in that city) it's best if you tell him in advance.
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I recognize myself in his behavior.
I usually reply "Perfect/We've got a plan... Etc, to confirm our scheduled event, but if someone had a suggestion and I didn't reply, it usually means I'm in.
It doesn't hurt to send him a message as in " Hey, what do you think if we booked reservations for that X restaurant?", you give him space to agree or to suggest otherwise in a light manner, instead of "Are you still in?", which might sound pushy and annoying.
Overall, a word of definitive confirmation is what I personally go for. I know an ENFP woman who would send me " I'm coming to see you today xoxoxo", and sure enough, she doesn't wait for my blessings, hence why she ends up visiting an empty house, while I'm at the other side of the planet.
I usually reply "Perfect/We've got a plan... Etc, to confirm our scheduled event, but if someone had a suggestion and I didn't reply, it usually means I'm in.
It doesn't hurt to send him a message as in " Hey, what do you think if we booked reservations for that X restaurant?", you give him space to agree or to suggest otherwise in a light manner, instead of "Are you still in?", which might sound pushy and annoying.
Overall, a word of definitive confirmation is what I personally go for. I know an ENFP woman who would send me " I'm coming to see you today xoxoxo", and sure enough, she doesn't wait for my blessings, hence why she ends up visiting an empty house, while I'm at the other side of the planet.
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