ENFJ And ISTP Relationships

[Mikikal_Bicycle]

Hi everyone so ive been looking into typology and the whole inter-dynamic relationships that can be really good or really bad if you don't get along. Its been some interesting reading but i was wondering if anyone has the same weird relationship i have with my ISTP friend! we get along so great its really a surprise since we argue like chickens but he makes me chuckle and he laughs at jokes so it works but im hoping i can make a good long lasting friendship from this relationship.Could you guys help explain a little bit of the mystery behind you guys
Thanks for any future help!
1) the basic outlook towards people and how istp's normally react when dealing with someone they dont care too much for.
2) do you guys forget about plans or make new ones often without any heads up (callback)?
3) how do i know if i'm in the loop of forever friends or not that important in the long haul?
4) how do you guys act when your interested or in love with someone?
5) What do you appreciate the most when it comes to enjoying life?

 

[Poki]

Hi everyone so ive been looking into typology and the whole inter-dynamic relationships that can be really good or really bad if you don't get along. Its been some interesting reading but i was wondering if anyone has the same weird relationship i have with my ISTP friend! we get along so great its really a surprise since we argue like chickens but he makes me chuckle and he laughs at jokes so it works but im hoping i can make a good long lasting friendship from this relationship.Could you guys help explain a little bit of the mystery behind you guys
Thanks for any future help!
1) the basic outlook towards people and how istp's normally react when dealing with someone they dont care too much for.
2) do you guys forget about plans or make new ones often without any heads up (callback)?
3) how do i know if i'm in the loop of forever friends or not that important in the long haul?
4) how do you guys act when your interested or in love with someone?
5) What do you appreciate the most when it comes to enjoying life?

My basic outlook is live and let live. It's better to be yourself and part ways them to force something that shouldn't be. While I believe you should constantly grow and adapt its should be at your own pace and your own free will.

Yes I forget alot, on purpose, no. I feel bad when I do it. I usually don't make plans much though, I just do things as I want to so when I get that last minute call it's like..oops...getting dressed...be there in a few.

I am not social, if you are not important I don't make time for you. It's as simple as that, you will know if you are not important. It's as simple as that with me.

Make time, try to find something we would both enjoy. Put forth effort to actually be in each others presence to see how things play out. I don't force connections, so I don't go much beyond presence.

I appreciate a drama free, anger free life. I don't enjoy drama or anger, i don't believe in "can't we all get along", I believe in if we don't get along...don't be together. There are to many fish in the sea to spend time forcing yourself to be with someone you don't get along with. Sadly this is not only common, but people push it and act as if there is something wrong because you don't get along with everyone. And we wonder why divorce e has gotten out of hand. We push "struggle with someone" instead of teaching people how to find those we actually get along with in the big picture.

My ex is ENFJ, we can have an awesome time together, laugh, joke, banter, play, etc. But that is not worth as much as a smooth and drama free relationship. Her specialty is that light hearted, playful, have fun. Which is all good and enjoyed. But it's not worth the drama and fighting between us.

After we seperated, when we joked and had fun her response was...see this is why we should be together...when we screamed and fought and argued my response was...this is why I left.