INTJs, would you ever date an ESFJ?

[Bacopa]

INTJ ESFJ relationships, friendship or love, any compatibility? - Personality Website

My INTJ friends claim that Ns and Ss shouldn't mix and they would never date a person with a sensing preference.

I on the other hand have had a great experience with a younger ESFJ woman, until I was dumped, but it was probably my fault for not spending enough time with her.

[Peter Deadpan]

So what you're really saying is that you're actually an INTP.

[Bacopa]

Why do you think that? Are INTPs really that compatible with ESFJs?

[Lord Lavender]

Why do you think that? Are INTPs really that compatible with ESFJs?

In socionics there's a thing called duality where its said that our ideal relationship is with our dual (i.e your type but all functions reversed like INTP/ESFJ, INTJ/ESFP, ISTP/ENFJ e.t.c). Well technically LII/ESE, ILI/SEE, LSI/EIE. The idea is that with INTP/ESFJ they each are seeking each others dom function (INTP is seeking Fe and ESFJ Ti) and both have Ne/Si in the middle so thats where the idea comes from I presume.

[Bacopa]

That's crazy. Most ESFPs annoy the hell out of me.

[Peter Deadpan]

To be honest, I would imagine that ESFJ in general rub INTJ the wrong way for two main reasons:

1. ESFJ are Fe-dominant, and Fe is the PoLR function of INTJ, so it's really just not their thing overall.
2. ESFJ value Si in second position, whereas with INTJ, Si comes in last at eighth position.

These two types really don't have anything in common. They are oppositely oriented with regard to I/E, J/P, and axes, and each has the other's PoLR function as a dominant function, as well as the other's eighth function as auxiliary.

In my experience, most INTJ have a difficult time working professionally with ESFJ, and I would imagine that ESFJ are equally annoyed with the INTJ's disposition, so I don't see any reason why these two would be particularly compatible elsewhere. Although I think it's unwise to view human relationships so strictly through the lens of typology, I really don't see there being much of a draw or complimentary dynamic between these two.

[Coriolis]

To be honest, I would imagine that ESFJ in general rub INTJ the wrong way for two main reasons:

1. ESFJ are Fe-dominant, and Fe is the PoLR function of INTJ, so it's really just not their thing overall.
2. ESFJ value Si in second position, whereas with INTJ, Si comes in last at eighth position.

These two types really don't have anything in common. They are oppositely oriented with regard to I/E, J/P, and axes, and each has the other's PoLR function as a dominant function, as well as the other's eighth function as auxiliary.

In my experience, most INTJ have a difficult time working professionally with ESFJ, and I would imagine that ESFJ are equally annoyed with the INTJ's disposition, so I don't see any reason why these two would be particularly compatible elsewhere. Although I think it's unwise to view human relationships so strictly through the lens of typology, I really don't see there being much of a draw or complimentary dynamic between these two.

Basically this. I would hesitate to exclude anyone based on type since people are more complex than that. In my experience, however, ESFJ is one of the types I tend to get along with least. I can maintain a cordial professional relationship with almost anyone, but it is unlikely I would enter any sort of romantic relationship with an ESFJ, or even a close friendship.

[ceecee]

To be honest, I would imagine that ESFJ in general rub INTJ the wrong way for two main reasons:

1. ESFJ are Fe-dominant, and Fe is the PoLR function of INTJ, so it's really just not their thing overall.
2. ESFJ value Si in second position, whereas with INTJ, Si comes in last at eighth position.

These two types really don't have anything in common. They are oppositely oriented with regard to I/E, J/P, and axes, and each has the other's PoLR function as a dominant function, as well as the other's eighth function as auxiliary.

In my experience, most INTJ have a difficult time working professionally with ESFJ, and I would imagine that ESFJ are equally annoyed with the INTJ's disposition, so I don't see any reason why these two would be particularly compatible elsewhere. Although I think it's unwise to view human relationships so strictly through the lens of typology, I really don't see there being much of a draw or complimentary dynamic between these two.

Very unwise.

That said I have worked with ESFJ's and got unsolicited advice from them far too often, which was off-putting. Socially I think they are fine tho.

[Bacopa]

Most ESFJs I've met are very nice people, except some of the older ones, the boomers. But I don't like that generation anyway.