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    Quote Originally Posted by phobik View Post
    It always makes me and re: procuring the perfect type match. What happens when your S.O. decides they are a different type, you dump them?
    thiss. half of us here can't even type ourselves right
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    I think compatibility is good when the first two letters are the same, and the last two switched. E.g ISTP with ISFJ, ENFP with ENTJ etc

    From what I've seen, extroverts gravitate and seem to enjoy the company of other extroverts more than introverts, and introverts need someone with similar energies and need for space as they do. So introverts are best with introverts, and vice versa.

    The second two letters can remain the same for the reasons mentioned earlier, and the last two switched, because they provide good opportunity for balance within a relationship. A thinker relationship might feel a bit cold, and a feeler relationship might not provide opportunities for logical balance. It think judgers and perceivers can also complement other. I now two perceivers who are married and they are both very laidback parents and not very good at managing their home, finances etc - not a good combination, IM0. I think two judgers together might be a bit rigid as well, or there may be fights for control.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caribelle View Post
    I think compatibility is good when the first two letters are the same, and the last two switched. E.g ISTP with ISFJ, ENFP with ENTJ etc

    From what I've seen, extroverts gravitate and seem to enjoy the company of other extroverts more than introverts, and introverts need someone with similar energies and need for space as they do. So introverts are best with introverts, and vice versa.

    The second two letters can remain the same for the reasons mentioned earlier, and the last two switched, because they provide good opportunity for balance within a relationship. A thinker relationship might feel a bit cold, and a feeler relationship might not provide opportunities for logical balance. It think judgers and perceivers can also complement other. I now two perceivers who are married and they are both very laidback parents and not very good at managing their home, finances etc - not a good combination, IM0. I think two judgers together might be a bit rigid as well, or there may be fights for control.
    Too many stereotypes here really..... Two thinkers within a relationship may not necessarily be cold in how they perceive the connection. And feelers aren't chickens wandering about searching for their cut off heads blindly. Each type and combination has its own areas of flexibility and rigidity... It's more, can you figure out ways to compromise and do so in positive ways.

    On paper perhaps there is some theoretical concept of "perfect matches based on alphabet soup" but in reality that isn't how it works.

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    Just speaking in general terms. Of course, there are nuances and exceptions to everything.
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    I mostly agree with OP. I think a J/P difference is good for practical reasons. Although I also think that in P/P or J/J dynamics, the person who is closer to the centre will become a little more J-ish or P-ish in order to compensate. (I can become J-ish pretty quickly depending on the needs of the situation.)

    I think that, rather than being great at showing us the types we are most compatible with, the MBTI is pretty good at showing us the types we are least compatible with... There are some types that consistently annoy me, haha.

    The S/N stereotype can be pointless sometimes, but... I've noticed that in dynamics between a strongly S person and a strongly N person, it's very rare that they will understand or appreciate each other. MBTI at least offers an explanation as to why some people just can't click.

    Another thing is that type compatibility theories can give a heads up about future issues in relationships that are easy most of the time. (For example, it has helped me as an INTP with ENFP friends to know that ENFPs often have a secret bossy streak, so I'm not confused when it comes up. But that's a cf thing rather than a dichotomy thing, so I'm not sure if it's really relevant to this thread.)

    I think T/F is easily the least important in terms of compatibility. I've never seen it make a real difference at all.
    Almost too Ti to function.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wildmoon View Post
    I think T/F is easily the least important in terms of compatibility. I've never seen it make a real difference at all.
    Interesting... with the exception of ENTPs and the odd ISTX, Ive mostly hung out with F types my whole life. I think its really important for compatibility, following closely behind N/S. Id even expand that to society: I think its one of the key distinctions in arts and culture, politics, philosophy, morality. It influences almost everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tommyc View Post
    Interesting... with the exception of ENTPs and the odd ISTX, Ive mostly hung out with F types my whole life. I think its really important for compatibility, following closely behind N/S. Id even expand that to society: I think its one of the key distinctions in arts and culture, politics, philosophy, morality. It influences almost everything.
    Hmm yeah that’s interesting. Are you more into the dichotomies of MBTI or the cognitive functions?
    Maybe I’m unique in being able to get along with both T and F types, haha.
    Almost too Ti to function.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wildmoon View Post
    Hmm yeah that’s interesting. Are you more into the dichotomies of MBTI or the cognitive functions?
    Maybe I’m unique in being able to get along with both T and F types, haha.
    I think cognitive function comes first - where you fall on each dichotomy is a reflection of your preferred function. Having said that I think dichotomies can have their own separate value - for instance "xxxP" types across the board share a certain fundamental quality. Call it a preference for chaos, while xxxJ types prefer order. Those are elemental forces in the universe, so its a really important difference.

    And yeh, I guess youre T/F blind... you are the chosen one, sent here to unite us

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    I subscribe to the theory that every function is complemented by its opposite in terms of introversion/extraversion. So Ti+Te, Fi+Fe, Si+Se, Ni+Ne.

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    As an extrovert, I guess I do have a knack for picking out who's the introvert in the room and it seems that the introverts have a curiosity over what I have to say, depending on their type. Ti-doms especially want to know what I have to say about things that they're talking about also, and I really do appreciate what they have to say about the subject also. There is a natural understanding here. My INTP brother and I can sometimes finish each others sentences or fill in the gaps exactly what the other one wanted to say, but couldn't. Of all the people who really do seem to gravitate towards me.. I'd say a few were extroverts but most were introverts. I feel like extroverted men (and women) really desire someone even more gregarious than they are, and since I'm ENFJ, of course I can be sociable and outgoing, but like.. I don't like it in the traditional sense. I'm not one to be seen going out every single day or night like some extroverts I know. When there were times in my life that I could go out every single day.. I just couldn't do it. It was too much.

    N/S. This is where the real differences and conflict comes to light, honestly. I can fight with both intuitive and sensing types, but honestly, sensing types grate me much harder than the former. I don't know what it is and I do strive to understand those who are different from me. That ISFP woman who was bugging me for attention not too long ago.. I just found her so fucking boring. And she probably found me a little too weird to take me seriously. It just wouldn't work. I know of ENFJ/ISFP couples out there who are together, but I do sense a lot of fighting and tension between them at the same time. ISTP people.. I've met one female that I was absolutely attracted to and wanted to be her girlfriend.. but geez, when Ti and Se gets together, I'm sorry, but you guys can be straight up nasty and it hurts because other than that, I do love having fun with you guys and I do sense something really.. important? Is that the word? Just something very deep within the interactions between us.

    Thinking/feeling. My last boyfriend that I haven't seen in a few months now is a T type, though he thinks otherwise. I do like that even if I do feel emotional, that the thinker can slow me down. One time I called a hotline for battered women and I was sobbing because I couldn't stop thinking about the ex-spouse (Ew), and this total ISTJ man on the other line.. at first, I felt unheard or invalid because he just couldn't get that bright emotional response like I do.. but he was so calm and sincere and logically spelled it out to me why I felt that way and what I can do to feel better. And after the call, I did felt immensely better! So there is something very beneficial between a feeler and a thinker when they get together.

    Judging/perceiving. This is hard to say, I guess I can go either way? I do love judging types because when it's time to get shit done, I don't need to tell them twice unless they're my dad. Perceiving types, I just get anxious when pressing matters come into the picture.. Like commitment to a project or to a relationship. Of course, I have met very dedicated perceiving types, so I guess it's a matter of searching through the hay to find that needle. The sucky thing about judging type, is that when they do decide to drop you, they are also very committed to that, too. So it's painful when I want to work something out with the other judging type, whatever that is, but they refuse to budge. Absolutely fucking stubborn. I'm not saying perceiving types can't be stubborn also, but like.. I don't know. I feel like it's a mixed up dice when it comes to J and P types, I feel like I never know what I'm going to get.

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