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    Default What Instinctual Subtype Does This Sound Like?

    I waver between sx and sp. A lot of people on this forum have typed me sp, and I'm not really surprised at this, based on how I interact, but I question the accuracy.

    When I was younger I felt a strong drive to merge with others. Not just any other person of course, but if I met someone who sparked something in me, they would become the focus of my obsession and I had a tendency to idealize and pedestalize these individuals. It was even more amplified if my interest in them was romantic.

    After getting burned enough and realizing that people rarely live up to the ideal versions we create in our minds, I became more cautious and reserved in my interactions, even when I came across people who sparked my interest and became objects of obsession. I've always been pretty guarded about revealing inner thoughts to just anyone, but doubly so by this point in my life. I think in that regard I can seem more focused on self preservation. Yet at my core, there's still a strong tendency to feel a pull toward certain people, a desire to merge with them, to learn everything about them. I rationalize in my head that such things as 'soul mates' do not exist, yet I think on some level I really do believe in them.

    I wonder if sx types are among the most idealistic humans? Or is that idealism just felt and expressed differently than it is with other instinctual types? I also wonder if they're more likely to experience crashing disappointments and to grow into jaded cynics..

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    What do y'all mean by merging with people? Ive been reading this a lot lately, and I'm not very clear on it I think.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gentleman Jack View Post
    What do y'all mean by merging with people? Ive been reading this a lot lately, and I'm not very clear on it I think.
    I think John Lennon may have been sx. At one point, he identified as half of JohnandYoko and would sign letters and notes accordingly.
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    maybe it's just a 9 thing

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    Quote Originally Posted by asynartetic View Post
    I think John Lennon may have been sx. At one point, he identified as half of JohnandYoko and would sign letters and notes accordingly.
    Isnt that like stiflingly claustrophobic though?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gentleman Jack View Post
    Isnt that like stiflingly claustrophobic though?
    Not for him. Or maybe it was. This would require another thread completely but the whole trope about Yoko being controlling may be partially rooted in truth. Read enough bios and accounts, and one begins to see why that conception of Yoko is so popular. I think May Pang was possibly a better match for John. If you ever have the chance, you should read about Lennon's "lost weekend." Really quite fascinating and I'm surprised it hasn't been adapted into a feature length film yet. Perhaps I might write a semi-fictionalized version one of these days.
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    Pairing a desire for intimacy with severe trust issues is a recipe for misery and loneliness.
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    It sounds like what I think sx is. My experience has been much the same. I strongly relate to all you say.
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    If that's you're genuine experience I'd go sx over sp, that's pretty textbook sx anyhow
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gentleman Jack View Post
    What do y'all mean by merging with people? Ive been reading this a lot lately, and I'm not very clear on it I think.
    I'm not sure if this is what others mean, but I have been thinking about how I would define it, and part of it for me, I think is having whatever is important to that other person be just as important to me - like the line between us gets blurred. Not purposely, not consciously with intent, but just because they are so much to me, they affect me on a deeper level. And so I want to take them in completely at that deeper level. Maybe this is more a Feeler thing than an sx merging thing, I don't know.
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