Sexual / Intimate First Support Group

[INTP1W2]

Do y'all find intense eye contact with certain people to be quite wonderful?

hell naw! No joke. If I don't like people staring into my soul then best believe I don't like staring into someone else's. It's freakin scary! Nope doesn't mean I'm lying to you..it's just uncomfortable.

[INTP1W2]

I have actually been told I look intense, yes. XD Most of the time when I am concentrating I am told it appears I am planning an enraged murder spree. XD

I get that one like ALL the time!

[Luminous]

This is specifically for sx/sps, please only respond if you are certain you understand on a core level how it feels to be a hungry ghost. If you don't currently struggle with this issue, or never have, please keep your opinions to yourself.

How do you find balance between being too much (too intense, coming on too strong, wanting too much, showing too much, unbridledness) and being so self restrained that you don't dare share anything, suffering in silence, and fear, and loneliness? Once the dam breaks, how do you slow the flow? Is it even possible?

Is incorporating so more key?

[Luminous]

Help.

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[Luminous]

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

Do y'all find intense eye contact with certain people to be quite wonderful?

If I'm dating someone, this would be important.

[Agent Washington]

This is specifically for sx/sps, please only respond if you are certain you understand on a core level how it feels to be a hungry ghost. If you don't currently struggle with this issue, or never have, please keep your opinions to yourself.

How do you find balance between being too much (too intense, coming on too strong, wanting too much, showing too much, unbridledness) and being so self restrained that you don't dare share anything, suffering in silence, and fear, and loneliness? Once the dam breaks, how do you slow the flow? Is it even possible?

Is incorporating so more key?

If you meet the right person, it'll be fine no matter what you do -- also, don't ever listen to a 7sx, king of positive romanticism, when it comes to shit like this.

[Luminous]

If you meet the right person, it'll be fine no matter what you do -- also, don't ever listen to a 7sx, king of positive romanticism, when it comes to shit like this.

Iol Ah, but you 7s are so wonderful. I can't help but listen. (I think that the right people will communicate what's going on with me so I can adjust my behavior to respect their boundaries/needs... and in doing that, they make it fine.)

[Agent Washington]

Iol Ah, but you 7s are so wonderful. I can't help but listen. (I think that the right people will communicate what's going on with me so I can adjust my behavior to respect their boundaries/needs... and in doing that, they make it fine.)

It's the rosy glasses, making us see things...

Yeah, actually. On one level, I suspect that's the idea that's probably true to some extent, but experience has given me a bitter lesson about ideas that are only true in ideal, YET I still fall back into the same rose-glasses whenever things get better. Thanks tho!