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    I suppose I'll try to explain using my own dominant core as an example.

    In a sense this is the very basic root covering of the variants.

    Self-preservation, Social, and Sexual all walk into a room. Self-preservation stares around the room seeing if this room will meet their needs. Is it warm? Is there food? What is needed to make it fit said needs? Are the people within it people I feel safe with?
    Social looks around at the other groups in the room. Do they fit? Belong? Do they feel they can mold into the group? What group will give them the most belonging or power? They will notice the hierarchies. They tend to avoid intimacy to a degree, in a sense of forming very deep personal connections.
    Sexual is looking for the intensity in the room. A person? An activity? What is going to stimulate an intensity? They will associate whether they feel they belong with the person or not as they are less indulged in the idea of hierarchies. They become obsessed with the person or thing which creates the intensity.

    In a sense every variant can be selfish. and to a degree is selfish.

    To core roots:
    Self-preservation may be too focused on persevering themselves to care about others needs, or to share their wealth.
    Social can use their ability to see and understand social standings to get into a power role by "using" people. It can also morph itself into the image desired which is dishonest.
    Sexual can become so obsessed with one person or thing they neglect those who need them more or value them more. Sx may also be reckless in seeking intensity and therefore hurt themselves and not care how the people they love are affected by their negative intensity seeking.

    So all of these variants can be very negative in use. But on a good scale
    Self-Preservation can make sure a room is adjusted well for company. It can create a sense of safety and warmth that other types may not be attuned to. Sp makes you more responsible, so while you have whims you also have balance.
    Social can acknowledge the hierarchy but also choose to help include those left out so everyone has a group. Their desire for belonging can make them more likely to adjust a maladaptive behavior because they want to be one with the group or setting. It can be valuable.
    Sexual can create exhilarating experiences for others and offer a deep connection others may not be willing to give. A deepest sort of loyal devotion.

    I personally type myself as Sx dominant for a distinct thing that stands out about Sx dominance...

    Self preservation instincts look out for themselves and their protection, they find comfort in things moreless.
    Social instinct looks at the group and finds comfort in a sense of belonging.
    Sexual instinct is looking outside themselves for this missing piece they cannot seem to find, that...thing. That person. That one thing that is going to complete them. That feels like the whole issue of my life, looking for something to complete me outside of myself and struggling to find it. This I think is what sets an Sx dom out from other variants. That they'll risk and hurt themselves and everything for some missing piece they don't know how to find...

    @Ixaerus since tis was semi reply to your conjecture. XD
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Lazarus View Post
    From what I have seen, it seems most people confuse what so is with what sx is.
    So wants to merge with everyone and make a lot of connections. It feels connected to everyone. Merging is easy and frequent. It is very performative and knows how to play into the broader imagery of things like sexual appeal in a way sx/sp at least doesn't because it is social blind.
    Sx is sensitive to connection. It's always looking for the connection, the soulmate or the one true love or true calling/passion or whatever (because as I said it can also be about a calling or something else). And it is the soulmate or whatever as well. That is all it can be. It is the seeker, always yearning. It is filled with disappointment and it doesn't understand why no one fits most of the time or how people can so insensitively pursue others almost arbitrarily and casually. Without merging and without awareness of the magnitude of what it is to do so, something not to be taken lightly. It filters from the moment it interacts with another.

    Sx/so is kind of the mix of both. It has the insensitivity of so in approach to trying to merge with everything but it is also able to recognize how disappointing and "not it" that merging is. Sx/Sp is the most sensitive and most selective about merging so it doesn't do that.
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    also I want you to know I was suggesting a conjecture as I have heard some people find Sp or So unideal for reasons and I was stating how Sx appears to be the most idealized one to be therefore most people desire to be it.

    I speak from an Sx stand point here. You don't want the feeling of just...seeking this...thing...you cannot find. Whether it be your life purpose or the soulmate of your being... I am worried you all think I am saying I- myself- feel So or Sp is selfish. I do not. I merely think people outside seem to find them selfish for whatever reason and in that sense all the variants are misunderstood. I am not singling them out as selfish. All can be selfish in their forms.

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    To answer the actual thread title, I dunno, to give the benefit of the doubt, maybe everyone who types as sx-dom IS sx-dom. I don't think it would be unheard of for sx-doms to hone in on psychology forums with a desire to find an uber-connection or more than one connection.

    But it's definitely true sx is idealized, so I'm sure there are mistypes. But fwiw as a potential sx-last I can't tell you how many times I read so-last threads and relate to *almost everything*. I guarantee there will be lots of other sx-lasts who will relate to quite a lot of what's written in these threads, re not particularly liking group events, preferring 1:1, not belonging to or wanting to belong to any clubs or organizations, having an aversion to politics or team maneuverings/hierarchies, not wanting to be friends with or date 'just anyone',wanting to find people they really connect with, not wanting a bunch of acquaintances, not really loving chit chat, wanting a meaningful life, all of that stuff. So if all of this automatically makes one sx dom or aux, then that's that. But if it doesn't, then more than half of the problem is that everyone who IS sx dom or aux is writing of things that apply to sx-lasts too, and they're not actually talking about sx-dom or sx-aux.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Lazarus View Post
    From what I have seen, it seems most people confuse what so is with what sx is.
    So wants to merge with everyone and make a lot of connections. It feels connected to everyone. Merging is easy and frequent. It is very performative and knows how to play into the broader imagery of things like sexual appeal in a way sx/sp at least doesn't because it is social blind.
    Sx is sensitive to connection. It's always looking for the connection, the soulmate or the one true love or true calling/passion or whatever . And it is the soulmate or whatever (because as I said it can also be about a calling or something else) as well. That is all it can be. It is the seeker, always yearning. It is filled with disappointment and it doesn't understand why no one fits most of the time or how people can so insensitively pursue others almost arbitrarily and casually. Without merging and without awareness of the magnitude of what it is to do so, something not to be taken lightly. It filters from the moment it interacts with another.

    Sx/so is kind of the mix of both. It has the insensitivity of so in approach to trying to merge with everything but it is also able to recognize how disappointing and "not it" that merging is. Sx/Sp is the most sensitive and most selective about merging so it doesn't do that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by phobik View Post
    Well, the non-cynical or not completely cynical version at least.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Lazarus View Post
    Well, the non-cynical or not completely cynical version at least.
    Ignore him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Lazarus View Post
    Well, the non-cynical or not completely cynical version at least.
    what's that be

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    Sp has a wall around it with windows and a locked door. It's observing the outside from within (even moreso for introverts and withdrawn e-types) and screens everyone before letting them in.

    So has a permeable membrane in which the desire is equal flow in and out. It wants reciprocation so that it neither feels it's giving or taking too much, but rather that there is not too much pressure on either side of the membrane.

    Sx has a magnetic shell with a positive and negative side. This shell is similar to a compass in that it seeks out a complimentary attraction, but unlike a compass, it's not fixed and can rotate at will, choosing to repel when desired.

    Also, Sp and So are more common in general and that probably ties with the basic human needs of safety and community, so no... most forumers are not Sx.
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    Perhaps because they lack in one to one relationships with another person.

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