Without any firm identification with a particular stacking:
I think I am sp last, though I could be confusing this with inferior Si. Take it with a grain of salt.
Basically, I just forget/postpone to do sp stuff. It is not to say that I do not find it important. I do.
While I do think I'm aware of my needs, I might stretch the limits if I'm engaged with something that's exciting & energizing me.
There is also an unwillingness to accumulate material goods in my case, because I feel that it weighs me down. I do not understand those who devote their lives to orderly suburban life and 401 Ks and all. We are going to die anyway; why accumulate stuff. Not my values.
@The bold, more so the learning to live with less, questioning the purpose of the attachment.
Instead, I spend my life doing the things that the majority of people only dream of. I need several thousand dollars in the bank for emergencies (my family lives all over the world) and enough to do the things I want to do. Everything I acquire beyond that is a game I play rather than a serious life pursuit.
While this looks appealing in some way and I am aware of it somewhat, I haven't "bothered" to pursuit it, yet.
It's usually a blindspot. Supposedly the first instinct is the most problematic (neurotic, perhaps) and the second is the one we have under control, as it's a focus but not overwhelmingly so. By that definition I'd be sx first, but the sp energy suits me better.
My so blindspot is an obliviousness to my relation to others in a group & sometimes even in friendships. I don't know where I stand with people because I don't think about it enough.
sp first for me doesn't manifest as the opposite of how people describe sp last (ie. I often forget to eat, don't like being bogged down with too much stuff, etc), but instead is more of an emotional desire for autonomy, to keep people at arm's length so as to not have their needs eclipse mine, etc. It's also an awareness of space, both physical & emotional. With sx second, this creates a real problem. There are also indulgence & denial aspects...it doesn't manifest as anything practical for me. I used to show up 2 hours late to work & can go all day without eating, etc. I guess there is a "recklessness" there for a 4 sp, as Riso-Hudson describe.
My so last experience, from another thread:
Originally Posted by so last according to me
- You're unaware of all of your social failures until they begin to impede meeting your sp & sx drives (uh oh... I have no network to find work or a lover!). You didn't even know you were on the outside looking in....
- You don't care about who is dating who or whatever dynamics are happening between people in a group. You don't even really understand these dynamics; it all looks silly to you. Often, you're oblivious to it all. You may only pick up on intimate dynamics between you & someone else.
- You'd rather be excited by someone than comfortable with them. Being comfortable in a group is especially dull & tedious. You either want to be alone & detached or enraptured by someone. Moderating your responses to be palatable is a challenge, a chore, & something you're not great at. If you're sp-dom, then you choose detachment a lot & seem to talk "at" people.
Tricky, I'd say I
do enjoy some comfort & harmony, so that it can be a springboard for challenge & change, ie new exciting things/ideas.
- 1) You have trouble seeing recognize the value of "reputation", have little to no some awareness of your own rep, and don't put much stock in acknowledging others' reps (taking people at face value, sometimes to your detriment). Popularity means almost nothing to you.See 1).
- You're unaware of status & don't put stock in it, so any material sp related interests are very personal & about meeting individual needs
- Your home is set up to be 1)comfortable to yourself, not company...2)you don't think in terms of "entertaining"
1) is true, 2) unless I have a reason/necessity/purpose to.
- You're unaware of your own influence on a group, and you may inadvertently be seen as a rebel force or a leader or an expert (because you unwittingly send out some signal that you're willing/able to do it).
This might happen.
- You're a loner, and it's not just because of shyness...
Maybe circumstantially.
- You've never been a part of any clique or social circle & you've never cared to be.
- You can be widely known & active in a community of sorts, but not be a part of any circles within it. You're always on the fringe, keeping people at arm's length without even meaning to. Your purpose for being in a group is never to become a "part" of it
- You may blur lines when it comes to social/cultural categories, without being aware of it having any significance or offense to some people
- You're hot or cold, with little in between. You tend to talk at people in a disconnected way or magnetize & become magnetized; but casual, friendly interaction is hardeasy.
I can, but I don't care to engage in pointless chit-chat. Which relates to:
- You're neither suspicious nor trusting of people. You tend to respond to them according to how interesting they are to you & how interesting you are to them.
- You refuse to get "involved" because you can't see the point of it
Some of this. It might be a counterphobic reaction though.
- It's almost impossible to snub you because you neither care nor even really notice
I do notice, whether I care or not, will depend on circumstances, as I'll likely try to assess & adapt to what my best course of action is.
- Politics are a big snooze fest. You might as well live under a rock when it comes to current events & celebrity gossip.
Mostly true if I'm busy/engaged with something else, unless I make an effort to mind/care.
- SO types can seem full of BS but also "magical" with the way they bond comfortably or influence others
Not really, I see through it/can do it too, if I "don't try".
- You may assume people do/don't like you more than they do because you don't notice or understand signs of approval/disapproval. You may assume "invisibleness" too.
- You have to be careful not to always be a voice of dissent. You often 1)fail to grasp the bonding processes people use to form social connections, so you don't jump on the "consensus bandwagon". You unwittingly make yourself an opposing force, someone for people to band against (this was a hard lesson in elementary school; I quickly withdrew once I experienced its effects)
1)More so might not give it enough attention allowing 2) to happen.
If I hang out with people, especially old friends, I want it to be shortlong, intense and energizing. Since being alone for too long leaves me in a semi comatose state, I like people to charge me up and give me an excuse to make every day feel like a worthy memory of this thing called life. Same with text messaging. The thought of starting a conversation with:
"hey"
"how's it going"
"not much, you?"
"lol"
Makes me want to flip over a table for some reason. If somebody asks me "so what have you been up to?" and all I can muster up is, "uh, nothing much." I feel like I've failed as a human being. Haha.
I might do the chit-chatty thing in jest, but poke at them, if we have that rapport, otherwise have little interest to continue the interaction and leave it at that.
