Can someone explain this in English? I have heard the phrase a lot lately. "Merging" with people makes some sense (kind of), but it's also applied to things/activities. How does that work?
For me sx and "merging" is as follows:
- It's a complete loss of sense of time and place when I'm in the presence of someone I'm connecting with on an intellectual or emotional level.
- It's a sense of feeling of loss at the idea of being away from my partner for an extended period. It's like I start feeling like I'm suffocating without her presence. I have a long trip coming up on Friday which means that I won't be able to talk to her for 24-30 hours straight and am already getting a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach at the thought of being away from her for so long
- It's mistaken for clingyness by non Sx-doms --- especially so/sp's who I have an extremely hard time getting along with as I perceive them as flighty and non-serious about intimate relationships.
- Only other sx's and sx/sp's can keep up with my required intensity of socializing and sharing experiences with them
- I start losing my sense of reality and purpose of being and start getting depressed and feeling even unloved when I'm not engaged in some form of sexual behaviour [flirting/dirty talking/sexting etc] with my partner for an extended period
- My need for new experiences isn't that great, but the need for high intensity experiences is very great. Example, I will enjoy myself at a dance club if I'm really in the mood ... but I may enjoy a simple, intimate get-together with someone else at a coffee shop if I really like them [that's probably sx/sp combined].
Overall, I think merging is feeling a sense of complete one-ness with another person. Having them be a part of your life, your thoughts, your plans --- and even every waking moment. And this kind of emotional bonding is not only exclusive for my SO. I can compartmentalize my feelings. Even my platonic relationships with other women are sometimes mistaken for romantic ones. I'm also a giver/creator of high intensity experiences for other people by digging as deep into their personality/psyche as I possibly can by getting them to divulge the most personal details of their lives to me.
