skylights
i love
- Joined
- Jul 6, 2010
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- 6w7
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- so/sx
There was almost a sense of entitlement regarding creature comforts, which I think sp-dom don't have (they feel a need to care for themselves).
i think this is a good point. i don't really have a sense of needing to provide creature comforts. i feel like they just kind of... happen. or they don't, and it's not really a big deal.
whereas my bf (i think he is probably sp dom?) is way more attentive to caring for himself. he takes a lot of pride in it, as well. he also takes care of me while i'm neglecting it (not because i ask or want him to... he just sort of... does it...). i feel a little uncertain when trying to take care of him because i know he is very used to taking himself and has some specific preferences, whereas i'm kind of just like, omg you cooked me dinner, you are the best thing ever, because i was going to microwave something otherwise...