User Tag List

First 123

Results 21 to 26 of 26

  1. #21

    Default

    I want the sexy conflicted nature of the sx/sp. All I have is this sp/sx boundary thing.

  2. #22
    Habitual Fi LineStepper JocktheMotie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    8,209

    Default

    It's really not that fun



  3. #23
    @.~*virinaĉo*~.@ Totenkindly's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    FREE
    Enneagram
    594 sx/sp
    Socionics
    LII Ne
    Posts
    42,566

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    It's really not that fun
    Yes, it's like wanting chocolate you can never have.
    (or even when you get it, you know eating it will just make you fat.)
    "Hey Capa -- We're only stardust." ~ "Sunshine"

    “Pleasure to me is wonder—the unexplored, the unexpected, the thing that is hidden and the changeless thing that lurks behind superficial mutability. To trace the remote in the immediate; the eternal in the ephemeral; the past in the present; the infinite in the finite; these are to me the springs of delight and beauty.” ~ H.P. Lovecraft

  4. #24
    Shaman BlackCat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    ESFP
    Enneagram
    9w8 sx/sp
    Socionics
    SEE Fi
    Posts
    7,013

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    Yes, it's like wanting chocolate you can never have.
    (or even when you get it, you know eating it will just make you fat.)
    I do this literally with food all the time. But I know the metaphoric implication you're trying to get across, that happens to me ALL the time relationships wise. My sx wants it, but my sp whips me because I know it would be bad or wouldn't work, then I'm disappointed.
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

    sCueI (primary Inquisition)

  5. #25
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2018
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Enneagram
    784 sx/sp
    Socionics
    N/A None
    Posts
    12

    Default Conflicted?

    Sp's take on and want to secure small amounts of people as an extension of their self-preservation reservoir, while Sx wants to connect with it as deeply as possible. So we want secure, deeply intimate connections with a small handful. What is lacking as So-blinds is a sense of identity, connection, as well as a drive to connect within large group/ greater world settings. One can't take interest in something you don't personally consciously experience, right? That conflicted withdraw-reemerge is over the fact that Sx wants to find meaning, so it needs to know itself deeply, but then also wants to merge with others with that same depth and intensity. Sp is also a pretty withdrawn instinct, like an animal hoarding and obsessively guarding a pile of food. My theory is that the more consistently we're able to fulfill our basic needs there in terms of connection and security, the more we'll grow and the psychologically healthier we'll be.

    Right now as a Sx/Sp i'm in the stage of realizing and coming to understand the existence of So, while also accepting that it's not ever going to be my strength. I struggled with a lot of confusion and shame over this, growing up with a So/Sp parent who found my lack of So very disturbing. Now i'm trying to unlearn that shame. I don't know if it's a healthy strategy or not, but i'm thinking of myself as the ultimate small group caretaker, and forming close bonds with So/Sx's to open up my social realm in a reasonable, non-threatening way. They don't seem to mind my So-blindness and love to help me out, and the Sx connection is mutually beneficial.

  6. #26
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2018
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Enneagram
    784 sx/sp
    Socionics
    N/A None
    Posts
    12

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    I do this literally with food all the time. But I know the metaphoric implication you're trying to get across, that happens to me ALL the time relationships wise. My sx wants it, but my sp whips me because I know it would be bad or wouldn't work, then I'm disappointed.
    YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSS

    It's the WORST! As a dominant 7 Sx I used to be like "naaaaaah we can just force this to work with THE POWER OF LOVE". Finally I've been burned enough to know better Nowadays I run into people a fair amount who are close to (meet many criteria) but just not quite the right type of match I need (lack 1-2 very important things), and it drives me insane.

Similar Threads

  1. [sx] sx/sp types, let me save you a lot of trouble in the search for a mate
    By themarlins in forum Instinctual Subtypes
    Replies: 31
    Last Post: 04-09-2018, 05:33 AM
  2. [sx] Question to sx/sps
    By BlackCat in forum Instinctual Subtypes
    Replies: 19
    Last Post: 04-02-2018, 10:00 AM
  3. [sx] sx/sp dating sx/soc
    By themarlins in forum Instinctual Subtypes
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 06-05-2011, 04:18 PM
  4. [sx] sx/sp brooding and the need for self-expression
    By the state i am in in forum Instinctual Subtypes
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 01-26-2011, 01:05 PM
  5. [sx] sx/sp question
    By INTPness in forum Instinctual Subtypes
    Replies: 25
    Last Post: 01-20-2010, 07:13 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO