Sacrophagus
Mastermind Fieldmarshal
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I agree with the above, except I have long known the answer to the highlighted, and am fine with that bargain. I used to struggle with that balance more when I was younger, but learned it isn't worth it. Being included for the sake of it, or with other people for the sake of it, is empty and worse than being alone. To the extent that I am alone, it is because being with others has been stressful, unpleasant, counterproductive, or other negative things.
It's like asking for a friend to come along with you for some venture. If he doesn't show up, you're still fine and you go get things done. (Minus the waste of time of calling the other person which makes you prefer to never ever call them again since their being with you is ultimately superficial. )
The social part is always a plus thing for me.