Heh, just another reason to trust my self-typing of 945 " Whereas other 9's (ex. 954/963) might actively avoid this "merge" by avoiding others or preemptively saying "no" to people." My kids ask "Hey, can you do me a favor?" I automatically shoot back with "I doubt it." rofl.
I was looking for one site among my bookmarks but found another:
Enneagram Type 9 - Enneagram Universe (Good God, I loathe that black background though!!!)
Great info about the different functions. It gave me more questions though:
"The stacking that flows the most WITH 9:
-SX​/SO
The stacking that flows the most against 9:
-SP/SO"
What the heck does that even mean lol? Is it 'the stacking more common for 9' or is it talking about the interactions of others when dealing with a 9?
Maybe [MENTION=35920]Ixaerus[/MENTION] could help?
I'll keep looking for that other site...
**EDIT**
Here's one good site:
Type Nine — The Enneagram Institute But it's not the one I was thinking about either lol.
It may be easier/faster to google what the differences are rofl (rushing off to see for myself)...
Okay... this site is even better than the one I was trying to find.
Nine Stacks | The Enneagram ...info from the underground.
For sp/so (me), it says in part:
"This subtype is the most self-effacing of type Nine, possibly the least assertive of all the enneagram types. They can feel as though they have been looked over and passed by. While they do desire attention and recognition, with the sexual instinct last in the stacking, they seldom actively pursue it. They feel as though it’s just not worth it. This subtype is usually very deliberate and methodical in their speech. They sometimes get frustrated because they don’t feel that they can say what they really want to say. They are therefore often very short and concise with their communication, not wanting to provoke any confrontation. But when given a chance and the time to express themselves, they can be quite talkative. While self-pres needs are important to this type, the fact that they are essentially Nines, sometimes causes them to put the needs of others before their own. When under stress, this type is likely to do busy work, anything that distracts them from their problems."
For so/sx (you?), it says in part:
"This subtype is “everyone’s friend.†The social/sexual energy combines with the Nine’s merging tendency and conflict avoidance to create a subtype that is very charming and uses humor quite extensively to engage with the people in their lives. On the down side, they can be frustrating because they can easily lose focus when it comes to their life priorities. With the self-pres instinct last in the stacking, they have a hard time tending to their own needs. They drift, and tend to use their charm to get a lot of their self-pres needs met by the people in their lives. When the Eight wing is dominant, they sometimes even develop a sense of entitlement, though they are just as likely to return help to those they charm into helping them."
Now, to hunt down the wings...