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    Default What's your coping mechanism?

    This is mental health, right? Couldn't think of anywhere else to put it.

    Anyway, when you're feeling down or stressed or overwhelmed what do you do to keep yourself together?

    When I was little I used to climb a huge tree in my backyard and sit up there for hours just to get away from it all and have my thoughts to myself. Nowadays I just journal everything and will have a written dialogue with myself until I feel in control again.

    So what do you do?

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    Take walks, listen to music, read, write, make art.

    I used to do the sitting in a tree thing when I was little too..

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    I listen to music, sleep, read...

    And I used to journal a lot, too...

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    My temptation is to lie down and just contemplate/decompress/process, but, exercise probably works best and does the most good. It really helps.
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    Think about it until I'm out of thoughts, eat something, watch TV, sleep on it. Results will vary.

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    isolate go inward
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Be by myself and zone by reading, surfing social media, etc.
    Take myself out on a date and/or buy some nail polish or a book, etc.
    Listen to music that reflects my emotions as kind of a purge.
    Yammer and vent as a purge.
    Write about it, also as a purge.
    Do mindless, mundane but necessary stuff to give me a feeling of control.
    If it's nice out, sometimes I walk.
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    This is the most Te thing ever, but in most situations, I find that the best way to de-stress is to tackle the stressor head-on. So if a task is looming over me, I force myself to just get it done.

    In situations where there's nothing I can do, and/or I've done all I can, then I try to do something distracting to take my mind off it. Talk to friends, listen to a podcast, clean around the house, make a battle plan/to-do list for later. Something that takes enough brain power that I'm not actually capable of thinking about the stressor and doing the task at the same time.

    (TL;DR I get a bit manic under stress.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Calliope View Post
    Anyway, when you're feeling down or stressed or overwhelmed what do you do to keep yourself together?
    The bigger problem for me is recognizing when I'm stressed out.
    I tend to "bulldoze" through alot, and before I have time to self-assess and figure out my overall level of stress, I typically wind up getting busy with something else and on and on I go... This very typical of Enneagram 7 types, so it's not surprising to me, however it is somewhat of an annoying default once I do figure out I'm stressed and need to decompress.

    Now then, answers to your question - my coping mechanisms arr below:

    (1) Extreme Housework (Create Order)
    (2) Yardwork/Landscaping (Create Something Good)
    (3) Carpentry (Create Something Functional & Beautiful)
    (4) Rampage at the Gym (Burn Up Excess Adrenaline)
    (5) Listen to Music (Redirect my Mind)
    (6) Meditate (Clear my Mind)
    (7) Deep Thought and then Draw Diagrams that Resolve the Stressor (Solution Modeling)
    (8) Watch Some Comedy with my Wifey

    Quote Originally Posted by Calliope
    Nowadays I just journal everything and will have a written dialogue with myself until I feel in control again.
    This is of similar benefit as my diagramming sessions.
    I'm big into systems theory and workflow/process engineering, so my approach to journaling is more of a visual process.
    Many times some type of behavioral pattern is the source of stress in my life.
    For example, procrastinating.
    Once I figure out I'm procrastinating I can consciously change my time management priorities (e.g. no fun stuff until my work stuff is done each day, etc.) until the stress is resolved.


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    I don't cope well, I'm not good at distracting myself.

    I tend to blow up when something bad happens though, so probably arguing.

    Usually I just break and let things get to me though.

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