iwakar
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After ruminating over some of the recent threads involving female sexuality, it got me thinking about the significance of breasts to the female identity.
More than once over the years I've heard/read stories about women who chose not to reconstruct their breasts after losing them to breast cancer or freak accidents. Some of these women have cited costs, some cited age and complications, and some simply chose not to have the procedure done. (My cousin-in-law's mother opted out due to cost, recovery time, potential complications, and a "lack of necessity" --her words, not mine-- after her double mastectomy over ten years ago. She is almost 70 now.)
The cancer survivor in this blog is a lesbian, and goes on to explain her annoyance with the medical profession for assuming all women want to endure lumpectomies after having mastectomies, and for simply not considering life without breasts as a healthy, viable option.
I don't know if any of the women here have experienced this sort of physical trauma, or if anyone is close to someone who has been faced with this decision, but I am very interested in knowing the reasons for choosing not to have breasts. (I suspect this option is entertained by a minority of mastectomy patients, but it seems to be more common than is openly discussed.)
I also wonder how significant others may feel about their partner's new, unnatural physical landscape. Would this diminish your sexual desire for them? How would you (or do you) feel about this decision? Should your opinion be considered by your partner?
Thoughtful perspectives are welcome here.
More than once over the years I've heard/read stories about women who chose not to reconstruct their breasts after losing them to breast cancer or freak accidents. Some of these women have cited costs, some cited age and complications, and some simply chose not to have the procedure done. (My cousin-in-law's mother opted out due to cost, recovery time, potential complications, and a "lack of necessity" --her words, not mine-- after her double mastectomy over ten years ago. She is almost 70 now.)
The cancer survivor in this blog is a lesbian, and goes on to explain her annoyance with the medical profession for assuming all women want to endure lumpectomies after having mastectomies, and for simply not considering life without breasts as a healthy, viable option.
I don't know if any of the women here have experienced this sort of physical trauma, or if anyone is close to someone who has been faced with this decision, but I am very interested in knowing the reasons for choosing not to have breasts. (I suspect this option is entertained by a minority of mastectomy patients, but it seems to be more common than is openly discussed.)
I also wonder how significant others may feel about their partner's new, unnatural physical landscape. Would this diminish your sexual desire for them? How would you (or do you) feel about this decision? Should your opinion be considered by your partner?
Thoughtful perspectives are welcome here.