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    Everything about my body language and facial expression screams don’t touch me. It’s actually a form of communication I appreciate though. A warm pat on the back or arm touch can be really expressive without using very many words. It’s also a way someone can tell me (or I can tell them) that they see through my icy exterior and are willing to be affectionate with me.

    Anyone else experience this or have thoughts about it?

    I recently had a weird interaction I wish I could do over. I work with someone that I have a great deal of respect for. He’s been patting me on the back for a while to show he appreciates me as well. One day, after a long meeting, he was coming into an office and I was heading out and I kind of spun around to close the door and it must have seemed like I was flinching because I caught him mid-reach going for a pat and now things are little awkward. I’m not really sure how to recover that. I’d also say that touch is a language I can read a lot better than I can speak.
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    I hugged unlikely person once. More because I liked them and wanted to express that than because I knew they’d react well. They hugged me right back in the warmest, most endearing sort of way. It was amazing.

    I’ve done some experiments with hugging acquaintances, with interesting outcomes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hermit Of The Forest View Post
    I hugged unlikely person once. More because I liked them and wanted to express that than because I knew they’d react well. They hugged me right back in the warmest, most endearing sort of way. It was amazing.

    I’ve done some experiments with hugging acquaintances, with interesting outcomes.
    What were they???

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    No one is allowed to touch me. It is lewd and lascivious and gives me the willies.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Metis View Post
    What were they???
    Haha, mostly just hugging acquaintances to see how they reacted. Results are I now have some new friends, some people I probably won’t hug again, and some people I probably won’t attempt a hug with.
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    I get uncomfortable with light touches, i don't know why just makes my skin crawl. Like if someone accidently brushes against me. eww gross. but if it's not a light touch then i'm fine. the other thing that freaks me out is unexpectant touches.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I get uncomfortable with light touches, i don't know why just makes my skin crawl. Like if someone accidently brushes against me. eww gross. but if it's not a light touch then i'm fine. the other thing that freaks me out is unexpectant touches.
    I totally get that too... light and/unexpected touches make my skin crawl *shivers*
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I get uncomfortable with light touches, i don't know why just makes my skin crawl. Like if someone accidently brushes against me. eww gross. but if it's not a light touch then i'm fine. the other thing that freaks me out is unexpectant touches.
    x2

    also, never touch my elbows
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    Hugging and touching is not the norm in the place I spent the most time, the semi-rural Midwest. Out on the west coast in the Bay Area, it was all about hugging and showing affection. It was jarring at first, but I got used to it. I don't incorporate touch in most of my communications besides greetings and partings, I enjoy a hug from people I like, and people I'd like to know to like.
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    If it’s my girlfriend, absolutely. Though she’s not super touchy-feely. Anyone else had better keep at least five feet from me. Especially people that feel the need to emphasize words with light touching. Touching me when I’m not even prepared is definitely not a good idea. It’s probably from being a guy and an only child. I didn’t have to roughhouse with siblings. My space was definitely my own.

    Edit: I will hug a friend (not a guy lol) who’s going through a rough time.

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