Viewing it as a personal offense simply means you are narrow-minded. Why not use the opportunity to view things in a way you may not have seen them before or even refused to do so (as is usually the case with people that have biases towards intuitives and they are confronted with the possibility of being a sensor).
I would say it's not so much narrow minded as insecure or simply thin-skinned.
The number one defense mechanism to protect the biases towards certain types have is this one sentence "You know yourself better than anyone else, so if you think that you are x or y, then you probably are right.", now why is this sentence so effective? Because it actually has some truth to it, but things aren't always so straightforward especially when it comes to cognition and behavior, more often than not it's actually easier for us to fool ourselves and know ourselves even less than other people do, which is why external perception is just as important as introspection when trying to know yourself better and is not a weakness in any way. External perception keeps you grounded in reality and facts about yourself, introspection figures out the how and why behind them.
As long as it's not done as a passive-aggressive act or something similar, we should actually be thankful if people willingly share their perception of us because if we do what we should do which is not dismissing any information because of biases and other factors and instead view things critically until we can tell if they have any validity or not then they have basically helped us know ourselves better, even if just a little.
Feedback from others on how we come across is one thing, and a useful thing. Insisting that someone is or is not a certain type is something else, and far less useful. The utility is in the explanations and the specific insights. If someone is willing to offer those, the type label itself is almost unnecessary and can amount to little more than an unsupported generalization. Part of the truism that the other person knows him/herself best is that they are at least familiar with their own life in its entirety, while we see only the small sliver they share online, in this particular space.
I still think that if you are THAT offended by “not being understood†because someone doesnt see you as the type you see yourself as is a bit... well. Its a bit unreasonable and it DOES make me question why you would NEED others to see you in a certain way. Its a type. Its who you are yes, but so is every action that you do. I dont walk around demaning people see me as creative or nice or intelligent- people are free to have their own perceptions of me and thats ok.
I agree with this. Type is just a tool for self-knowledge.
It's true, after all, if you have indeed explored different possibilities thoroughly then you don't need to act like a crybaby right? All you have to do is calmly explain your thought process, which should be simple, even natural if you had actually thought about it. Otherwise it's just lashing out caused by denial and lack of insight.
Sure. Problem is, some people remain dissatisfied with such an answer and continue to press their case, and nitpick all the details in your explanation. That calls into question their purpose in the discussion.
Oh, Amberiat. I like you, but you're being insensitive here. Often, as is being pointed out, the questioning of someone's type is being seen as/is a passive aggressive attack. When you are attacked that way, when it involves those issues that cut to your deepest level, your values, your fears, what can and will hurt you, it can be difficult to react in a completely calm manner. I don't think anyone participating in this thread would react like a crybaby if feedback was given in a kind, respectful, insightful, non arrogant manner.
What's right isn't always what's easy. Being a crybaby never solved anything. If someone really is being attacked in the guise of type feedback, that is best ignored or shut down with a simple statement. It can also be reported if persistent or a violation of forum rules.
For me personally people can type me as anything and its not something that would bother me as I tend to be curious about how I could be seen as X or Y as maybe there's something about me I'm missing as deep down I am a soul searcher at heart plus it just sparks my curiosity. But I can see why it might bother some as it could be perceived as a passive aggressive attack on ones character using negative stereotypes of X type.
I generally try and not type people without their consent though as it isn't fair for me to impose my will on someone like that as its like hmmm I imposed emo fashion or labelled someone a hipster.
Yes. I generally don't offer type related comments unless someone asks for it explicitly, makes a "type-me" thread, posts in a "type the member above" thread, or specifically references it in a thread. In other words, if they say "Because I'm an ABCD, I tend to react this way", my reply might include a comment that they don't seem like an ABCD to me.
You are a good example, and have been a very good sport about people questioning your type. I have done it myself, and always tried to explain why I have the opinion I do. You have taken my observations for what they were, with neither one of us getting wrapped round the axle about the actual letters. That being said, if you asked me not to make further type comments, I would stop immediately, just as a courtesy.
