Hello evrryone. I have some personal issues that is destroying my relationships with other people. I am aware I have a lot to work on to become a better person, and I am not proud of the personality traits I possess.
My parents split up when I was about 2 years old. My father became an alcoholic and my mother met a narcissist, so I haven't had good father figures in my life.
In present time, I have found out these things about myself:
Extremely selfish
Pessimistic
Anger issues, I'm frustrated 24/7
I have a all or nothing personality
I'm impossible to motivate.
I lie a lot. Even about unnecessary things.
Low amount of empathy (but I have it. I care deeply about those who are close to me)
I want everything to be done my way or I will get so angry I'll do or say anything to make it happen. If it still doesn't go my way I will get cranky and sad.
I'm extremely afraid of being controlled by others.
I am excellent at first impressions. I have been described as charming and kind. Small talk is easy.
Low self esteem, I don't deserve anything and I always assume I'm the worst. I usually try to avoid being at the centre of attention.
I take everything personally and get really defensive. I know criticism is important but I still can't respond well to it.
My father has called my a psychopath, which I'm not. My girlfriend has called me a sadist, which I'm not either. She thinks I enjoy picking a fight and gain pleasure from it. She also says I abuse her emotionally. It is never my intention, I never purposefully try to hurt her. (Just to be clear, I never hurt her physically).
I have for a long time thought she was the issue, that she is A nagging, uptight freak but in reality I was the problem all along why our relationship is as bad as it is. I'm impossible to deal with, and no matter what she does I'm not happy. I'm not thankful for anything she does. But I do care about her, and I really feel I'd do anything to make her happy.
I have applied to see a pshychologist, but its like a 6 month waiting period. So I'm asking you guys; what's wrong with me? Am I just a troubled young adult that is searching for his identity or is it something wrong with me? I'm tired of feeling, thinking and behaving the way I do and no matter how hard I try I end up behaving the exact same way again.
I know my behaviour is childish and bad so I don't need to hear it. I just want to get better. Identify the problem and work on it. I appreciate all your help.
My parents split up when I was about 2 years old. My father became an alcoholic and my mother met a narcissist, so I haven't had good father figures in my life.
In present time, I have found out these things about myself:
Extremely selfish
Pessimistic
Anger issues, I'm frustrated 24/7
I have a all or nothing personality
I'm impossible to motivate.
I lie a lot. Even about unnecessary things.
Low amount of empathy (but I have it. I care deeply about those who are close to me)
I want everything to be done my way or I will get so angry I'll do or say anything to make it happen. If it still doesn't go my way I will get cranky and sad.
I'm extremely afraid of being controlled by others.
I am excellent at first impressions. I have been described as charming and kind. Small talk is easy.
Low self esteem, I don't deserve anything and I always assume I'm the worst. I usually try to avoid being at the centre of attention.
I take everything personally and get really defensive. I know criticism is important but I still can't respond well to it.
My father has called my a psychopath, which I'm not. My girlfriend has called me a sadist, which I'm not either. She thinks I enjoy picking a fight and gain pleasure from it. She also says I abuse her emotionally. It is never my intention, I never purposefully try to hurt her. (Just to be clear, I never hurt her physically).
I have for a long time thought she was the issue, that she is A nagging, uptight freak but in reality I was the problem all along why our relationship is as bad as it is. I'm impossible to deal with, and no matter what she does I'm not happy. I'm not thankful for anything she does. But I do care about her, and I really feel I'd do anything to make her happy.
I have applied to see a pshychologist, but its like a 6 month waiting period. So I'm asking you guys; what's wrong with me? Am I just a troubled young adult that is searching for his identity or is it something wrong with me? I'm tired of feeling, thinking and behaving the way I do and no matter how hard I try I end up behaving the exact same way again.
I know my behaviour is childish and bad so I don't need to hear it. I just want to get better. Identify the problem and work on it. I appreciate all your help.