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    Question Do you think you’re emotionally needy?

    As in needing validation from others (in any form) more often than you concider average.
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    yes
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so
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    I can be annoying, but needy in classic sense of the word ... not really.
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    I take care of myself, I take care of my people, and I think that's enough.
    Needing someone always sounded far-fetched and too dramatic. Why would anyone need anyone? You're not my oxygen or food.

    I might desire you, but it stops there.

    There's a certain kind of adorable, spontaneous and lighthearted neediness that I can accept from some women though. Others, however, can feel too suffocating and demanding. Discarded on the spot.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hermit Of The Forest View Post
    As in needing validation from others (in any form) more often than you concider average.
    No, but then I don't know what you consider average.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    No, but then I don't know what you consider average.
    Lol I don't know either. It's not really a question of measurement, but whether or not you feel as though you are asking more than you think you should.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hermit Of The Forest View Post
    Lol I don't know either. It's not really a question of measurement, but whether or not you feel as though you are asking more than you think you should.
    I don't have that feeling. I more often feel I am being expected to give more than I should.
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    I really don't know.

    I do know that I'm needier-than-average when it comes to needing others to keep their own emotional needs/expectations/reactions (of and towards me) in check. And I'm e5, prone to denial about my own needs (not wanting to have any) - so if anything, I repress them and they hide in the unconscious for me. Or so I assume. My low tolerance for other's neediness suggests to me that I have work to do on accepting my own needs are there (and okay) first - even if I can't perceive them.

    eta: I guess that^ is working with a definition of "needy" that would define it as needing something from other people to regulate our own emotions. If "needy" is just needing explicit validation from others, then no - that's actually where I should work on accepting that I need some at all.
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    need always provides pressure , i am totally self reliant and my internal measure comes,from within
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    When I feel all is well with the other person in question, and they matter a lot to me, I think I'm pretty independent, but I do get kind of needy if I feel they are not okay and I don't know why and it goes on for a long time or quite suddenly with no righting itself. I think I'm better at not relying on others close to me for a mirror of my own self as I used to be. In a lot of ways, I'm pretty happy and self-sufficient. But ideally I think I'd be better at not allowing other people's emotions to colour my own. I'm getting better at allowing other people to be whatever they need or want to be without it impacting me as deeply, but I still resent it more than I think is optimal, especially when it seems like they are being immature or capricious in doing so. As both an NFJ and a e1, I probably am pretty motivated by affirmation or recognition from people who impact my life or have control over other people's perceptions/are over me and unduly bothered by their indifference or them censuring me. I have gotten more proactive about this, and also have better perspective than I did, but it's definitely something that I'm working to change.
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