Spanking: Should spanking be used to discipline a child?

[Mole]

Spanking is a tool of authoritarian child rearing, while empathy and creativity are part of the helping mode of child rearing.

 

[Maou]

I dont condone spanking at all ages, only till they are able to rationally understand rules etc.

 

[rav3n]

I dont condone spanking at all ages, only till they are able to rationally understand rules etc.

That still doesn't make any sense since babies have simple needs and shouldn't be punished for their needs. Toddlers can easily be anticipated such as not taking them shopping when it's nap time or when they're hungry. My son had one tantrum his entire life. I didn't freak out and didn't give him what he wanted with the understanding that there would be no discussion until he had calmed down. He calmed down pretty quickly and from there, it was smooth sailing. It's really that simple. There's no need to physically abuse them. Would you smack an adult with down syndrome around?

 

[Tater]

Like it was just yesterday, I remember my bare ass being whipped with a belt 20+ times for something I didn't even do when I was 5 years old.

Fuck that noise.

 

[Virtual ghost]

And yet, physical punishment is quite common among poor neighborhoods. Stop and consider that, in that domestic violence breeds domestic violence.

I would dare to add that it also breeds emotional problems and new circle of poverty.
There is huge middle ground between being a violent parent and allowing your kids to rise themselves the best way they can.

 

[Kaiser]

Spanking is not the answer. You're teaching your child to treat bad behaviour with a physical beating. Violence is never the answer.

 

[ceecee]

Without fear of violence, there is no law.

Simply put, if your kids do not fear you. They will be little pieces of trash when they get older.

Hmm. How many kids do you have?

We raised 4 productive, educated and employed (adults 3) kids, three of them boys, never hit one of them. Must have been some kind of miracle that it worked without fear or violence.

 

[notmyapples]

It doesn't matter whether or not you think spanking worked for you, the statistics show that it largely has negative consequences. It's like arguing that smoking isn't bad for you because you know people that didn't die from it. That doesn't matter because even if there is a chance it won't turn out bad, it's not your decision to light your kid's cigarette. We know it doesn't work.

 

[Doctor Cringelord]

Only in extreme circumstances. Too much empathy and coddling leads to narcissistic, self-absorbed children, whilst too much of the opposite also has negative effects.

 

[Sparkykun]

A person who has reared multiple Doctorates mentioned to view child rearing as a job, use love as a guide, build a solid foundation in education, and to be a role model (meaning don't request anything of your child if you yourself can't do it).

 

[Saturnal Snowqueen]

No thanks. I used to think I couldn't say anything about spanking since I wasn't raised that way. But it's simple, I don't want to hit my children. It's ironic though, a lot of people who are like, "I got spanked and I turned out fine!" did not turn out fine(i.e they're douchebags). Then again, as someone who had a mom who didn't really discipline a ton but was alcoholic, what do I know? My parents apparently gave me hot sauce as a kid for that sort of thing and that's how I found out I like spicy food. I was 2 then.