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Scarcity & Social Interaction

Eldanen

Arcesso pulli gingerios!
Joined
Apr 26, 2007
Messages
697
MBTI Type
INTP
Enneagram
5w4
Hey guys. Have any of you ever been so starved for social interaction that you tried to rush a new relationship so quickly that the other person got weirded out, or other interesting things took place? I tend to do this all the time after spending mounds of time by myself. And I do it somewhat naturally anyway. I'm pretty quick at finding out whether the other person and I have common ground or not, and I tend to leap at it, hehe. Also, feel free to just go off of the topic itself. I'm too tired to elaborate, but there's other stuff here :D.
 

Xander

Lex Parsimoniae
Joined
Apr 24, 2007
Messages
4,463
MBTI Type
INTP
Enneagram
9w8
Introvert here... always too busy giving the extrovert daggers for nipping in when I wanted to speak. Rushing in is not usually an option nevermind a problem. Though thinking about it when given the right platform I can go a little headlong....

As for common ground, you are all my experiments. What is this common ground of which you speak?

:newwink:
 

Kasper

Diabolical
Joined
May 30, 2008
Messages
11,590
MBTI Type
ENTP
Enneagram
9w8
Instinctual Variant
so/sx
Heh, I'm the person that get's weirded out when someone tries to rush me :D
 

ZiL

New member
Joined
Nov 27, 2007
Messages
511
MBTI Type
ENTP
Enneagram
567?
I actually do something similar. But I know I'd be wierding someone out if I came on too strong and started calling them all the time wanting to do stuff, so I start out by giving them a lot of facebook attention, and then hopefully from there, they'll agree to hang out without me pressuring them.

And I have a few friends who I only see maybe once a month, but when we do hang out, we talk for hours. I dunno, they seem alright with it. They sort of disappear too, so it's not like I'm leaving them hanging.
 

gloomy-optimist

New member
Joined
Oct 9, 2008
Messages
305
MBTI Type
INFJ
Enneagram
4w3
I like socializing...I've just got this thing where it's just really awkward. :B I like it when others take initiative so I can take some cues and decide how I should handle the person.
 

LucrativeSid

New member
Joined
Oct 20, 2007
Messages
837
My focus is always very broad. I've never rushed a relationship because it's never been my first priority. I don't care if it takes me a year to get to know someone because it's not like my life feels incomplete until it happens. There's so many people and so many things. I'm always occupied. I never worry about it.
 

Sinister Scribe

New member
Joined
Oct 11, 2008
Messages
62
MBTI Type
INTx
Enneagram
5
Hey guys. Have any of you ever been so starved for social interaction that you tried to rush a new relationship so quickly that the other person got weirded out, or other interesting things took place? I tend to do this all the time after spending mounds of time by myself. And I do it somewhat naturally anyway. I'm pretty quick at finding out whether the other person and I have common ground or not, and I tend to leap at it, hehe. Also, feel free to just go off of the topic itself. I'm too tired to elaborate, but there's other stuff here :D.

This is what amazes me about the people I know who are both extroverted and intuitive... often the ENTs.

I tend not to rush social interaction. In fact, it is quite the opposite; I tend to withdraw from it, as I prefer to keep to myself. Honestly, it does freak me out a little bit when people come up to me and immediately want to be friends. Being a strongly introverted INTJ, I tend to push back and push them away.
 

01011010

New member
Joined
Jun 22, 2008
Messages
3,916
MBTI Type
INxJ
No way. I'm distant on some levels with friends I've known for years. No rushing on my end, ever.
 
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