That's a pretty grim picture, I hope it doesnt play out like that.
Its interesting what you say, sometimes I think therapy culture does create norms or expectations of openness about personal experience which is greater than usual, on the other hand I also know what you mean about the reaction to reports of the troubling, sometimes I think that's a reaction to the horribleness of what's heard and most people prefer to believe that life is not like that which of course often works in favour of predators or abusers of all sorts, though I have read some people who think its a reaction to the possible casualisation of experience, especially experience with traumatic impact.
I've only encountered one person, a professional actually, who sought encouraged someone to actively repress and do not mention some traumatic experience. That was interesting, although I think that they believed they were acting in good faith. It doesnt surprise me since even Freud was accused of covering up the widespread nature of child abuse or incest among his patients because he was just incredulous about it himself, believing that it all had to be fantasy, rather than the greater part or simply just a part of it.
I can see how the idea of "damaged and damaging" could be a exploitable rationalisation, by both abusers, others who avoidant of any mention "damaging personal histories" or machavellian types.
I've witnessed in the UK the rise of hugely conflicting attitudes towards those experiencing or who have experienced trauma, on the one hand they can be valourised, for instance if they are fire fighters or first responders, but simultaneously plans are begun to "retire" the same individuals as "damaged and potentially damaging". That sort of thing spawns its own culture, manipulative individuals who will ask or expect of others things they will never do themselves, in fact the mere suggestion of the same will provoke a sneer or smile at who is saying its naivete or innocence (I've even seen the term innocence trend as a form of abuse among some sections of the community, now those really are the damaging sections of the population).
That said I also dont see why it should be something that you have as a sole focus and never talk of anything else either, to me that seems an equally unusual, odd sort of thing which is highly noticeable in a few posters on the forum, like what Floki said about Mole, but then that's just an observation, I kind of got off track there, all I wanted to say was that I hope things dont play out as grim as you mentioned there.
