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Why We Think We Can See Through Others

Z Buck McFate

Pepperidge Farm remembers.
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Here is an idea to gauge the extent to which we do this individually:


I agree with everything under the spoiler, and want to add that I know something is amiss if I feel like I somehow need the thing to be true. It could be ego (and needing to feel like 'the person who can see through others', because it's part of one's identity and without it we aren't worth as much), or defensiveness (needing 'insight' into someone's 'bad character' as means to dismiss a hurtful attack, or something), or any other number of reasons. But if I feel any emotional attachment to the "insight" I think I'm seeing, then I instinctively know I'm on shaky ground.

When I humor 'insight' without feeling any emotional attachment to it being true, and it consistently still seems true, that's when I tend to trust it the most.
 
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