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How important is it to you to feel important?

Freesia

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Question mark.
 

prplchknz

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i feel that question mark is often unsure about itself. because it always attached to things of uncertainty or used as a manipulation tool. I bet deep down the question mark wants to be important but just can't figure out how to. society has put the question mark in a position as such that it is only important when things of question arise. so while we see the question mark as important, the question mark itself doesn't. Because of the things we place it's importance on


now for my serious reply i think everyone to some extent even a little bit wants to feel important. i find if i feel chronically unimportant i start feeling worthless. but if I feel too important i get too big of an ego in the dangerous sense. and when that happens it gets cut down to size
 

Evo

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Well I'm always surprised by how important it actually is.
 

Freesia

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i feel that question mark is often unsure about itself. because it always attached to things of uncertainty or used as a manipulation tool. I bet deep down the question mark wants to be important but just can't figure out how to. society has put the question mark in a position as such that it is only important when things of question arise. so while we see the question mark as important, the question mark itself doesn't. Because of the things we place it's importance on

:happy2:

now for my serious reply i think everyone to some extent even a little bit wants to feel important. i find if i feel chronically unimportant i start feeling worthless. but if I feel too important i get too big of an ego in the dangerous sense. and when that happens it gets cut down to size

Yup. 'Tis a delicate balance, a vicious cycle.

Well I'm always surprised by how important it actually is.

:yes: I'd almost convinced myself that I don't feel much of a sense of belonging or obligation and just recently admitted that that was all self-deception. I need to feel needed and to have some type of status, even if it's negative.
 

Flâneuse

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It varies.

Feeling important in the world's eyes: It's not very important to me anymore. I usually (key word) don't mind being a "nobody" in society.
I admit this is kind of a selfish motivation, but sometimes I want to feel "secretly/silently important", like I'll use my life to enrich others' lives without demanding recognition for it.

Feeling important to the people who are most important to me: Very important.
 

alcea rosea

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It is important for myself to see my own importance. I don't care if most of the people see me as unimportant.
 

Evee

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It's not important to me.
 

olivetti

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I want to be valued as an individual and as a fellow human being, but I don't need to feel important. To me, the need to feel important implies that I'm better off - or better than - someone. But anyone can value me, and I can give others value.
 

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^^^ This. I feel like I have to matter in some way or the other. To matter, you have to be important in some context. And being important makes you feel important, though not necessarily superior, prideful, entitled.
 

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^ Agree with [MENTION=10714]Qlip[/MENTION] and [MENTION=20829]Hard[/MENTION]. Would add that I would also appreciate being SEEN as important/useful/needed. Though that's not quite as important to me.
 

Amalie Muller

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I enjoy being worshiped as a genius and as being superior to other people. :D

If you were just a boring EQUAL to everyone else, why bother doing anything? Just let some other loser do it.
 

five sounds

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Hard to say. I think it's most important for me to feel like I have a positive impact on the people's lives I touch. Even if it's just being friendly. I'm pretty liberal with my definition of 'important'.
 

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It depends. I feel I am important and needed to the people in my life, in my career, etc. I don't feel or even want to feel important to the world in general.
 

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I am a speck of dust in this great cosmos.

In the grand scheme of things, not much.

For the moment, I feel much.
 

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I think the better words than "important" to describe what I utterly desire are "significant" and "irreplaceable", and I wish to be significant and irreplaceable to a few people in my life, my parents, my partner, my children, my best friends, even my close workers.

I loathe being described, thought of, talked about, talked to, treated, loved, cared for like everybody else, or anybody else. For myself and within every person I've connected to, I must have an authentic identity.
Hence it's easy for me to feel unimportant or insignificant. Most of the time, people don't put much thought and energy into truly identifying the people in their lives. Not everyone allows themselves to dive truly deep into another person to discover their uniqueness; people settle with their own reflection on somebody else. And so after a while a person you know is just another face. That IS scary.

When I leave a work place, if I hear that I'm hard to replace for the detailed good work that I've done, I know I'm important. When I'm with a partner, if I'm aware that I make him feel and do things he has never before, and the things we do / say are different and beyond what's between him and his previous, I know I'm important. When I go home after a night out with my friend and they let me know that it's been a long time since they could talk / have fun with somebody that way, I know I'm important.

Say, it's an INFP type 4 thing?!
 

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I'm not one to stand by and let life pass without influencing it. Ideally, I could stand to be important.

But being in the public eye leads to a lot of wrongheaded scrutiny, a thing that I wouldn't have the patience to deal with. Having statements misconstrued because I didn't word them just right? No, thanks.
 

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The idea of doing things that are redundant or irrelevant bothers me. If what I do could just as easily be done by someone else, then I have nothing of my own to contribute. It's a waste of my time to stick around. I want to participate because my involvement seems valuable or necessary.

Not sure how important it is to me because I rarely feel like I'm doing anything useful. Well, it's important enough to be noticeable to me.
 

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I think it's important to me to be important in the right context. I would prefer to be regarded within my family and within my career as someone worthwhile. I have no desire for fame, though, and I don't feel an overwhelming drive to impact the world in a major memorable way in the long run. I just want to play a part in making the world the beautiful, happy, wondrous place my parents introduced me to when I was a child. Circle of Life and all.
 

Comeback Girl

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It's not that I want to feel important, I just don't want to feel useless.
 
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