Why are people afraid to ask for things?

[Honor]

hmm, i'm often afraid to ask for things.

 

[prplchknz]

hmm, i'm often afraid to ask for things.

only if they look like they're going to kill me or in a bad mood i am

 

[Honor]

only if they look like they're going to kill me or in a bad mood i am

really? i rarely ever ask anyone else for anything unless i really trust them.

 

[prplchknz]

really? i rarely ever ask anyone else for anything unless i really trust them.

yeah, people are usually nicer than people say. I've gotten rides from strangers, and only once did one try to solicit me

 

[Firebird 8118]

I'm usually afraid to ask others for anything because: 1) I don't want to be a burden on other people, and 2) I'm afraid of being looked down upon in a condescending manner.

 

[prplchknz]

I'm usually afraid to ask others for anything because: 1) I don't want to be a burden on other people, and 2) I'm afraid of being looked down upon in a condescending manner.

1.) if they feel as though you're a burden, that's their fault for not saying no 2.) if the person is condescending, why are you asking them in the first place?

 

[Firebird 8118]

1.) if they feel as though you're a burden, that's their fault for not saying no 2.) if the person is condescending, why are you asking them in the first place?

Yeah, I suppose both are true.

I'll just have to keep reminding myself that's it's okay to ask if I really do need something, without feeling that I'm being selfish or whatnot.

 

[prplchknz]

Yeah, I suppose both are true.

I'll just have to keep reminding myself that's it's okay to ask if I really do need something, without feeling that I'm being selfish or whatnot.

exactly

 

[garbage]

so wait, I'm a bad person, because I ask?

Nah, I didn't say that; I just listed potential reasons why someone would be dissuaded from asking for help.

 

[prplchknz]

Nah, I didn't say that; I just listed potential reasons why someone would be dissuaded from asking for help.

Oh, this thread is making me feel guilty for having no problems with asking for things. I probably shouldn't have made it

 

[garbage]

Oh, this thread is making me feel guilty for having no problems with asking for things. I probably shouldn't have made it

Nah, many of the things I listed are unhealthy motivations for not wanting to ask for things. Getting over those gives you room to ask for what you need. It's not a weakness.

 

[prplchknz]

Nah, many of the things I listed are unhealthy motivations for not wanting to ask for things. Getting over those gives you room to ask for what you need. It's not a weakness.

so I'm better than everyone else? I like you

 

[garbage]

so I'm better than everyone else? I like you

Pretty much.

I've gotta say that I'm personally inclined not to ask for help. Some reasons are legit, some out of fear; I should work to overcome the latter.

My sister, on the other hand, is irresponsible and has a huge need to be coddled. That's bad news.

 

[prplchknz]

Pretty much.

I've gotta say that I'm personally inclined not to ask for help. Some reasons are legit, some out of fear; I should work to overcome the latter.

My sister, on the other hand, is irresponsible and has a huge need to be coddled. That's bad news.

I don't ask for everything, like i don't ask for things that would put others in a bad situation, and it's not constant only when I really want/need something.

 

[Mole]

My sister, on the other hand, is irresponsible and has a huge need to be coddled. That's bad news.

I like to be coddled and I like to coddle, like two coddled eggs, together.

 

[prplchknz]

so yesterday I was looking for a cardigan or something to put over a sleeveless dress, and I went into the store, and a person who works their asked if I was looking for anything. And I was like yes, and explained what I was looking for. I also showed her the dress. Now the way I see it is I want to be in and out of the store quick as possible. So if I know what I'm looking for, I am going to ask for help. It's their job to do so, and plus she offered. if she didn't want to then she shouldn't have offered. I don't get why more people don't utilize this. Now I get when you don't know what you want that's different. Of course I'll get a definite idea of what I want in my head. And people have told me that might be too specific,because I'll be like I want this style this pattern this length, ect. oh and i want a sweater that looks exactly like this to go with it. and many times it's too specific that i end up settling on something similar, but not exactly