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    Default Why does "Grown Up" have negative connotations?

    I have observed that many young adults shy away from the label "grown up" or "adult" and I don't really see why. I think being able to relax and have a good time are essential to well being and happiness - you would go crazy if you were all business, no party. But why do people in their 20s or even 30s say things like "I'm not an adult" or "when I grow up..." etc, as though being an adult were something negative?

    It is possible to take responsibility for your life and your role in the world while still having a good time. I really admire maturity in thought and action.



    I guess it is a rant or something.

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    "Grown up" is sometimes used as a euphemism for "just another cog in the system."

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    Quote Originally Posted by gromit View Post
    I have observed that many young adults shy away from the label "grown up" or "adult" and I don't really see why. I think being able to relax and have a good time are essential to well being and happiness - you would go crazy if you were all business, no party. But why do people in their 20s or even 30s say things like "I'm not an adult" or "when I grow up..." etc, as though being an adult were something negative?

    It is possible to take responsibility for your life and your role in the world while still having a good time. I really admire maturity in thought and action.

    I guess it is a rant or something.
    Grown up means what the Swedes call myndig.
    Officialdom/authority. In Swedish: myndighet.

    EU money is in the North of Europe?
    It is in the South.
    Is the money available to the myndighet/tax collector?
    It is not.

    If the money were available to the tax collector, the South would go under.
    What would happen if the South went under?
    The North would collapse. The economists know it.
    So why they do not speak out?

    Debit is credit.
    Myndighet looks at figures that don't exist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gromit View Post
    I have observed that many young adults shy away from the label "grown up" or "adult" and I don't really see why. I think being able to relax and have a good time are essential to well being and happiness - you would go crazy if you were all business, no party. But why do people in their 20s or even 30s say things like "I'm not an adult" or "when I grow up..." etc, as though being an adult were something negative?

    It is possible to take responsibility for your life and your role in the world while still having a good time. I really admire maturity in thought and action.



    I guess it is a rant or something.


    I was never in my twenties or thirties by that measure.

    I do think there's crisis in responsiblity and conscientiousness, particularly social conscience, but I see that as part of a more general maturational crisis which is more unconscious than conscious with a bunch of corresponding structural and cultural unintended consequences.

    Although its interesting that you come at it from the personal/observational angle, what is your MBTI?
    All for ourselves, and nothing for other people, seems, in every age of the world, to have been the vile maxim of the masters of mankind.
    Chapter IV, p. 448. - Adam Smith, Book 3, The Wealth of Nations

    whether or not you credit psychoanalysis itself, the fact remains that we all must, to the greatest extent possible, understand one another's minds as our own; the very survival of humanity has always depended on it. - Open Culture

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    Dont feel like sugar coating things this morning. Because people willjudge somwthing based on what they think about it at that time. So in one instance it will have a negative connotation and in another instance it will have a positive connotation. Peoples judgements are short sighted that way and flip back and forth based on what they want.
    Im out, its been fun

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    Dont feel like sugar coating things this morning. Because people willjudge somwthing based on what they think about it at that time. So in one instance it will have a negative connotation and in another instance it will have a positive connotation. Peoples judgements are short sighted that way and flip back and forth based on what they want.
    Im out, its been fun

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