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The article is so over-the-top.
Even I would have to turn in my extrovert membership card.
me too. i'm hardly extraverted by these standards, just by jungian ones.
It seems to think the following are typical of introverts:
yeah, that list is all over the place. it describes some Fi stuff, Si stuff, J stuff, etc...
Which brings me to another annoyance: The title is "Revenge of the Introverts" and the subtext on the magazine says, "How to Thrive in an Extroverted World". The book mentioned is called, "The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World". Where's the revenge? Where's the advantage?
yeah, it's stupid. i think the advantages have a lot more to do with self-sufficiency and the ability to be alone, to be more original, to be more private and not need everyone to know your business all the time, to not need to get something out of yourself to know what you think.
This article gives both introverts and extroverts a bad rap. It's not as if being one or the other is so horrific. Better yet, get to know your own personal limits for socialisation and hold true to them.
Of course extroverts have been cursed by God. In Her ineffable wisdom the Godess crippled extroverts at birth. And with a touch of cruelty befitting a Goddess, She crippled them emotionally.
So extroverts are condemned to roam the Earth just as the Flying Dutchman is condemned to roam the Seven Seas, forever. Deracinated, always longing for home, but never finding port.
And informed by ressentiment, the extroverts have taken over the world, and their revenge is to let it be known that there is something wrong with introverts.
And the great tragedy of life is that introverts believe them, and in response to this calumny have built a whole culture of therapy to cure a non-existent disease.
But we wait in patience for the Messiah, a glorious introvert, bursting with emotional light. But the extroverts giggle up their sleeves and tell us, She is not the Messiah, She is just a naughty girl.
And the Goddess weeps for us caught in the toils of the extroverts.
are you or have you considered being a writer, Victor? as in, for the public? i think many people would enjoy reading what you have to say.
Can we have an article like this on extraversion? I have no idea what it's like to be an extravert, but there are 1001 of these on introversion.
I dislike the undertones of 'introversion is so complex it needs to be explained, but extraversion is simple and normal so everyone should know what it's like to be an extravert.' Maybe I read too far into it, but that's the general idea I get.
me too.
i don't even think the differences are so pronounced as many people would have us think. i always thought i was an introvert, but in reality i'm just a comparatively reserved extravert.
i thought i would feel more self-confident if i was an extravert, but come to find out i am one, nothing's really changed, except that i've embraced my extraverted tendencies more and it makes me happier. i guess all along the "wanting" to be an extravert was realizing i was sort of subverting myself.
i guess for me being an extravert, especially an ExxP, is mostly about being really affected by my environment. not in Se or Si terms - i'm kind of oblivious sometimes - but i have a need to act and interact, or at least to be in an arena where action is taking place. the downside of being an extravert is that i don't like to sit by myself alone much (alone with the internets is fine because i'm act/interacting), but alone in thought i don't like because i begin to get caught up in all of my own insidious worries and fears without the external world to help balance me. that's kind of embarrassing to admit, but it's true. i need external stabilization, and i like external motivation. i also feel a huge need to act in the external world. if i don't, then i don't feel like there's a huge point in my existence. it's lovely to be me but i also need to leave a mark on my environment.
Robopop said:This is so true, and it's not really fair either, like on alot of job applications it is required to be very outgoing, be a teamplayer, and to have an assertive personality, seems like every damn job wants an extrovert.
don't get too down on yourself. job applications and certain bosses always want an ESTJ, but we all know the person that's best for the job isn't always an ESTJ. the head of the company probably isn't even an ESTJ. we all have talents to use and maximize. and let's face it, being talkative and assertive isn't even extraversion, it's just Te and Fe.
my point being, even us extraverts don't live up to being "extraverted". it's a dumb cultural standard that, like most stereotypes, is grounded in a truth (the usefulness of interpersonal skills) and when taken to the extreme is both stupid and harmful.