feeling isolated?

[prplchknz]

you know i mean not lonely but isolated, cut off from the world and everything to the point where you question if you should bother living another day. that if no one realizes how much pain your in, or seems like no one gives a shit. I know other people relate to this, how do you get through it? this is the second time i've felt this isolated and i don't know how i got through it the first time, some how i did.

 

[ThatGirl]

Well first you sit around waiting for something to happen or someone to notice, then you do what you just did. Then someone responds, and *poof* problem gone.

I think it is important to remember that the world is a really big fucking place with a lot more going on in it than what you are feeling right now. If you want to connect to it, just participate in something.

 

[prplchknz]

no tg, it's not that simple. I'm talking about irl not on a fucking internet forum.

 

[KLessard]

I would suggest you try to understand the root of your feeling, of your sadness. Examine your childhood. Read good books about emotional healing. You will discover other people who have felt the same as you and have been freed.

And I agree that taking part in something, meeting people or one special person you trust and can share your pain with would help.

Isolation can be self-inflicted... Do you make an effort to do something and meet people? Or you feel too down to do anything or meet anyone? You need to clean up on the inside first?

Prayer helps me, but if you are not a believer... I don't know.

 

[Vamp]

you know i mean not lonely but isolated, cut off from the world and everything to the point where you question if you should bother living another day. that if no one realizes how much pain your in, or seems like no one gives a shit. I know other people relate to this, how do you get through it? this is the second time i've felt this isolated and i don't know how i got through it the first time, some how i did.

I've felt like this before and I sort of feel like this right now. I'm definitely not going to tell you to pick up some self help books or apply XYZ to your life because the world is so much bigger than you.

What works for me is writing, creating and. ...well, fantasizing. I needed distance between me and the world. I also need to immerse myself in something so my pain is pushed far to the back of my brain (and also so I can re-affirm how I fit in this shit I detest so much if for nothing other than to tear it apart and make my own). This is only diversion, tho.

Is there any resource you can use to ease your isolation? I mean, physically, mentally and socially like a counselor or something that because this is a difficult, deep dark hole to climb out of by yourself.

 

[KDude]

I feel like this often..it's been going on and off for a long time. I end up hoping that things might improve. I'm not overly-positive, but somehow, I get out of it. I remind myself of my parents, most of all. I pray, and.. I consider myself devoted to my beliefs (although I don't go to church or anything), and it helps to kick me back into a better state of mind. I also always have some new thing or interest to learn and that I can do alone. They'll take me somewhere.

In the end, I'm probably responsible for my own isolation anyways. Someone could give me a ticket to a life long party, a completely new image, and a career as a porn-rockstar, and I'd turn it down. My aspirations aren't in sync with any of that. I don't know what I'm supposed to be striving for sometimes, but it isn't that. I have little glimpses of what's "supposed" to be fun or what it's like to be part of some crowd or lots of activity, and it's more lonely there. So.. what am I complaining about.

 

[ThatGirl]

no tg, it's not that simple. I'm talking about irl not on a fucking internet forum.

I'm pretty sure my advice was universal.

 

[Amethyst]

I particularly enjoy that feeling, that no one gives a shit about me and being isolated.

But I'm crazy, and can't really help you with this one.

 

[Polaris]

you know i mean not lonely but isolated, cut off from the world and everything to the point where you question if you should bother living another day. that if no one realizes how much pain your in, or seems like no one gives a shit. I know other people relate to this, how do you get through it? this is the second time i've felt this isolated and i don't know how i got through it the first time, some how i did.

I feel you, because I'm going through this, as well. The only thing you can really do is keep looking toward the future; there's always something to look forward to, even if it's as little as eating a bowl of ice cream; if there weren't, you would lie in bed all day or commit suicide. And those small things will keep you going until something better comes along. You have to believe that, because if you give up that hope, there's nothing left for you in life, and when there's nothing left, you're looking death right in the face.

EDIT: On a more specific level, you're going to have to try reaching out to people even if you don't feel enthusiastic about it. Try giving your phone number to someone here on the forum, preferably a person you talk to on a regular basis, and that will be a small step in the right direction. Anything you can do to make yourself feel more connected to the rest of humanity will be helpful to you. Beyond that, the only thing you can do is wait for some luck to come your way.

 

[mochajava]

The advice one friend gave me was to observe the tiny little things that give you pleasure. So small, uncomplicated -- like water droplets on a leaf, the fact that it feels really great to down a glass of water when you're thirsty, or just how fucking amazing the sunrise is when you get to catch it. And really savor it. Then think about why you like it. And it is a tiny thing, but it helped me to move through a period of serious negative / isolated / depressed energy (these are cyclic for me).

It's not the "gratitude lists" that Oprah talks about (which are good too), because when I'm isolated and negative those become too complicated, charged, and don't feel fully authentic. But realizing that I really do love how my warm comforter is sitting on my legs and why I love it (because it signals being happy and at home and relaxing and warm) is just a drop in the bucket that needs to get filled.

Also - are there people in your life who would care, whom you could reach out to? Or people who reach out to you? When I'm down / depressed, this is the LAST thing in the world I want to do. But are there friends of yours who also have these types of cycles? They might be the ones to just mention it to. I did that and, unexpectedly, a couple of mine jumped and called and wanted to help and I sort of couldn't believe it.

Just a few thoughts. I'd like to hear more from you though. What are you thinking? Are there stressful events happening? Are you thinking about a particular event / thought over and over? Do you exercise (also, lame-ish advice, but so incredibly helpful -- my gym, and the guys I boxed with, were my saviors during a soul-crushing job).

 

[Little_Sticks]

Sometimes, under the right circumstances, if someone lives through it long enough and it still continues and doesn't kill the person in some way, it becomes an accepted thing that someone becomes used to. Then it becomes about changing the need into a want and another want into a need. Then it becomes just a challenge - something once thought needed that is now just a desire.