Eckhart
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So, you feel abandoned by your friends? Are you hurt that they didn't reach out more when you started to behave differently? If that's the case, then I can honestly imagine why you feel so lonely. However, perhaps it's still up to you do make the choice to actively seek their companionship again. I don't want to sound mean, but it doesn't seem realistic for people put their lives on hold, so to speak.
PersonalityPage can probably explain this better than me:
(INFP Personal Growth)
You're probably right. You're friends probably didn't understand why you isolated yourself. Perhaps, they saw this as a form of rejection and were thus hesitant to reach out because they never saw any signs that you wanted help. Obviously, I don't know the details or understand everything perfectly. I am just trying to give a helpful perspective.
Well, it is difficult to explain. You know, back then we saw nearly every day at school obligatory. I behaved different as in I was less talkative and more sad. It was not that I treated people badly, at least I think so.
I can understand that they couldn't do too much when I don't talk to them about things. I cannot expect them to put their life on hold, as you say. However I think that they (or at least one) could have at least have told me if they think I changed behaviour, and they shouldn't have let me drop completely once the school was over and we didn't see each other obligatory - at least when I had at least some meaning for them. It does not seem so.
It is not all people who dropped me completely immediately. A few wrote me few messages, 2-3 still do rarely. It became less and less though, and I can literally feel that the interest was low.
I know I did mistakes, and I know it is not all their mistake. It has to be me, since it is me who they left alone, they probably didn't leave everyone alone. I for myself was not in a healthy position, and I had already in nearly whole my life such experiences that I have been wronged by people who I thought are my friends that I was just not able to act reasonable about it. I was overchallenged by my situation.