What Makes a Person Likeable?

[paperoceans]

A person is only likable if they have deep pockets.

 

[wolfy]

A person is only likable if they have deep pockets.

Cash flow is an important part of likeability.

I think any kind of need destroys likeability. That is why wanting to be liked and make friends destroys any chance you have. People can smell need a mile away.

You have to bring something to the table.

 

[Wonkavision]

I like people with attitude.

A little anger, or a little pride, or sarcasm, or some kind of swagger, or some of edgy quality.

People who are polite and have good manners are respectable, but I think they're boring and I don't particularly like them.

 

[prplchknz]

People who are polite and have good manners are respectable, but I think they're boring and I don't particularly like them.

I find 98% of the time people like that usually end up being fake. and insencere

 

[entropie]

Easy beans.

LIKE

similar
resembling
analogous
allied
parallel
cognate
close

NOT LIKE

different
far away
dissimilar
not resembling
YOU

of Anglo Saxon lician to please < to suit, to match
< to be like
YOU

Gothic leikan, to please
< to suit, to match <to be like
YOU

Swedish likna, to match
< lik, close; near
YOU

Scandinavian loan in Finnish: liki-
liki-näkö < myopia, close-eyedness

Middle English lich, a corpse
< a body < samelike, like
YOU

German Leich, body < samelike
original meaning: form, shape, look, a likeness to
YOU


A form is a likeness.
The idea of form is recognition. A re-cognition: again-knowing.
Again is an idea of what was before, a match, a likeness, a closeness to what was already.
What was already?
YOU were.


You like people to whom YOU bear a resemblance, a closeness, a likeness of
form and shape.

Leichnam or Leiche

Leich are the eggs of female fish

 

[matmos]

Leichnam or Leiche

Leich are the eggs of female fish

As opposed to the eggs of a male fish?

Tautology is a likable trait.

 

[Synapse]

A person is likable when they have an engaging personality with good initiative and attitude.

Well I'm hopeless then!

 

[JustHer]

Society is a sausage, there is no such thing as real friendship, especially for a con man, who even manages to deceive himself.

I'm struggling to understand this comparison, are you saying there is no such thing as a real sausage?

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

What makes a person likable?

Humility.

 

[Grace]

This may have been said before but I think confidence is very very very important. It's easy to not like someone when they don't like themselves either.

 

[Giggly]

I like nice people. I see no reason to think people are being fake unless they give me a real reason to think they are. I like people who are introspective. I like people who are unselfish and respectful of others, yet have great self-respect. I like a good sense of humor and a fair dose of optimism. I also like people who are technically proficient, but the real cream is with those who are technically proficient and socially conscious.

 

[ChocolateMoose123]

All the people I like bring something latent out in my personality. I think that's important. Likable people either enhance your good traits or make you feel good about having bad ones.

 

[Giggly]

All the people I like bring something latent out in my personality. I think that's important. Likable people either enhance your good traits or make you feel good about having bad ones.

Good point. I also think a likable person is someone who passively helps you grow.

 

[Sarcasticus]

I like people with attitude.

A little anger, or a little pride, or sarcasm, or some kind of swagger, or some of edgy quality.

People who are polite and have good manners are respectable, but I think they're boring and I don't particularly like them.

Definitely this. Someone that's been a little beat down by life and has an attitude about it (a little edge) over someone who's been pampered and polite their whole life.

 

[Mole]

I like vulnerable people.

 

[Charmed Justice]

^That. I also find conflicted people more endearing than people who seem to have it all figured out.

 

[Tiltyred]

Show me you have the capacity to invest emotionally and you have my attention.

 

[wildcat]

Leichnam or Leiche

Leich are the eggs of female fish

Thank you for the correction. My mistake.

 

[Halla74]

What makes a person likeable?

To me many things at the same time in the right proportions, depending on what they are and who they are coming from.

Is there a core trait? Openness?

Openness is a core trait, as far as I'm concerned. Synarch and I chatted about this a few months ago. Openness is a sign of strength. I dig it.

Is it a set of traits? If so, what are they?

Again, yes. I like people that have the following traits in some functional measure:

-Genuineness
-Non-Pretentious
-Intelligent (Street Smart AND Book Smart)
-Funny
-Optimistic
-Considerate
-Polite, but NOT Politically Correct
-Motivated
-Self Sufficient
-Of Diverse Experiences
-Inner and Outer Beauty, Pride in The Gifts God Gave Them, but not Narcissists
-Assertive
-Flexible
-Resilient
-Tough (Mentally AND/OR Physically) but Not Mean

What do you think?

I think the role someone is playing in my life is directly dependent on how many of the above criteria must be satisified and to what degree. I am a people lover by default, but the ones that I gravitate to, and choose to keep current with are the ones who have alot of the list above going on. Those are my core folks, my base, my friends and advisors.

 

[JFNI]

Why not?

Because you get bored quickly.