I don't know if it's a gift or a curse, Hah!
I'll take the NF fence sitting option and go with "both".
Oooooh, stonewalling is good to know how to dish out if you need to. It is actually a VERY destructive tactic with regard to interpersonal relations, but if its a piss ant co-worker or peer in a social group it can throw them off balance with very little effort.
I totally agree. Stonewalling
burns, and does have the effect of pushing very close people in your life away. Someone in my life has learned that lesson the hard way.
My desire to connect and understand makes it difficult for me to do, but I'm sure I could totally do the below with a random associate, haha! Thanks for the pointers!
Door slamming is such a sissy thing to do.
My gawd! Tell. me. about. it!:steam:
Once we determine someone doesn't matter they fundamentally do not exist and we do not deal with them. Same for relationship breakups. When they are done, they are done.
That is so very true.
Do you just not think about the person anymore(like a switch that turns off?), or is it that you make a conscientious decision to not deal with them one day at a time?
So now you've got me sitting here trying to figure out rather I've ever made anyone disappear, and I can't think of anyone. It's hard for me to shut people completely down and out of my life. Of course, then I end up with an occasional toxic human in my presence and I don't know what to do with them.
Ha! Good move! You found peace on the open road!
Well, still
finding it, but I'm getting there. I still feel guilty sometimes for not doing all the things that are expected of me, but I realized that I was just selling myself short in acquiescing to the demands of someone who doesn't want the same thing for me as I want for myself.
At least you are letting it all out, at someone else's expense. Stress is better to give than receive. Bottling up anger will only hurt you, it's better to take it out on those that angered you, if they truly are in the wrong. If they are not then mouth diarrhea is abusive.
Yea, oral diarrhea is my way of taking a stand. I only do it when feel like I've been severely and repetitively taken advantage of or mistreated, which is very unusual.
My wife's friend called her last night and bitched for an hour on the phone. My wife said
"I didn't get a word in the whole damn time." 
I told her the worst part of it all is that she lost an hour of her life listening to that crap and no good came of it. Then she got pissed.
Haha! That kinda of drama is familiar to women everywhere.
I had one big blow out with a friend of my mine when we were living together in college. It's the only blow out or serious argument I've ever had with any good friend of mine. We had been friends for six years, and had never so much as disagreed up until then. Hell, we even dated brothers because our taste was so similar.
Nonetheless, we spent
three days in a bitter battle our Freshman year of college, and finally just stopped talking to each other the rest of the semester. Women.
I would come into the room, and she would be within arm's distance of me, and we would just completely ignore each other. This went on for five months, until I moved out and back home. Talk about a waste. Of course, we got over it months later ,and we've been best friends again ever since.
Blame it on estrogen.
I've always been a pretty peaceful person, but I will argue to the death.
