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    Do you employ your love languages when practicing self care?

    (Words of affirmation, physical touch - maybe giving yourself a foot massage?, gifts, acts of service - maybe doing something unpleasant that you can then enjoy the benefit of?, quality time)
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    Not consciously, but I suppose I do a bit now that you mention it. If self care can be unconscious.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hermit of the Forest View Post
    Not consciously, but I suppose I do a bit now that you mention it. If self care can be unconscious.
    I think it could... It could be what you reach for to make yourself feel better whether you consciously think about it or not...
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    Good question.

    I usually test as "words of affirmation" being my highest, but while I do love it from other people, I don't think it really helps me in the long-run. I don't really ever give myself words of affirmation because I never believe it coming from me, that's why I appreciate it from others.

    I like physical touch a lot too, and I definitely self-pleasure a lot when I'm not feeling great.

    I've noticed that I buy myself shit as "self-care." Mainly in the form of good food. So that's probably most effective of the five for me.

    The other two are really irrelevant to me, as far as I know.
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    I tend to neglect myself, but yeah. If I do acts of service that benefit me, I do feel better now that you mention it. Its in part with my coping mechanisms too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MovinOut View Post
    Good question.

    I usually test as "words of affirmation" being my highest, but while I do love it from other people, I don't think it really helps me in the long-run. I don't really ever give myself words of affirmation because I never believe it coming from me, that's why I appreciate it from others.

    I like physical touch a lot too, and I definitely self-pleasure a lot when I'm not feeling great.

    I've noticed that I buy myself shit as "self-care." Mainly in the form of good food. So that's probably most effective of the five for me.

    The other two are really irrelevant to me, as far as I know.

    I am words of affirmation as well, and agree with all your points. i don't find it helps me in the long run for the same reasons.

    When i am under great stress physical touch makes me bristle. ( my second love language)

    buying myself stuff, ( random antiques , crystals, books) lighting candles and listening to music act as self care for me. The more eccentric the moment the better i feel.
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    My top love languages are quality time and gift giving, and it makes sense. Whenever I'm feeling down, one of my first thoughts is, "Why not do something new?". So I try to take up a new hobby of some sorts, usually something creative, really try to do something with my time. I push myself to initiate things more and say, "Hey, we should go out for lunch!" For gift giving, I try not to buy myself too many things but I do love to window shop and see all the weird stuff out there).
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    Acts of service and quality time. I pull away from everyone else (quality time) and get some stuff done- so I suppose yes? I get my favourite food, but I think that's more acts of service than gifts since it's if I can make it myself I do.

    I think I employ acts of service + quality time most. I still see solitude (given or taken myself) as the best gift. On my own birthday I isolate for the entire day as a gift to myself.
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