Gays & Relationships With Women

[SillySapienne]

hey i have a gay question bc of all this prop 8 stuff in california.

when a gay couple is raising their adopted child... do they teach them to be gay?

bc if they teach them to be gay, aren't they saying its a choice? or at least, partially a choice?

No they don't teach them to be gay, where the hell did you hear that?!?!?

 

[ajblaise]

No they don't teach them to be gay, where the hell did you hear that?!?!?

Seriously. My brain loled pretty hard when I read that.

 

[nomadic]

No they don't teach them to be gay, where the hell did you hear that?!?!?

breathe! haha

i have no idea. thats why im asking!

do u know gay couples with kids?

 

[SillySapienne]

breathe! haha

i have no idea. thats why im asking!

do u know gay couples with kids?

All the ones I have ever known *never* taught their kids to be gay.

And, dude, who the hell teaches their kids to be gay or straight???

That is the most ludicrous thing, ever.

Sexual orientation is an *innate* thing, that means you are born with it.

 

[nomadic]

Sexual orientation is an *innate* thing, that means you are born with it.

i don't really care enough about this to argue...

but yeah, i don't see why gay parents would want their adopted kids to get a gay education, seeing how they would not share their gay genes (from their perspective) so i don't really disagree with anything that affects me.

 

[ENTJ Extraordinaire]

GAY GENES?

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY THAT GAY BABIES ARE BORN IN SKINNIES OR SOMETHING

lol
i'm joking.

however, i do find it a difficult concept to grasp, the idea of Genetic Sexuality...*sigh* it doesn't seem like a predetermined thing to me, but something you develop...i guess...BAH I DON'T KNOW! such a hard topic to decide on!

it guess it has to be a genetic thing, coz for the most part, it seems predetermined!

 

[Kora]

I wonder what's actually a 'gay education'.

 

[ajblaise]

I wonder what's actually a 'gay education'.

Fashion 101? Show tunes music theory?

 

[ENTJ Extraordinaire]

'how to seduce a guy in seven days?'

 

[ajblaise]

AP Gay Agenda And How To Turn Unsuspecting Straight People Gay

 

[Kora]

I see what they did there then...

 

[Totenkindly]

AP Gay Agenda And How To Turn Unsuspecting Straight People Gay

Hmmm, I wonder if that would qualify as a "terrorist attack" nowadays.

 

[Kora]

Hey, that makes me remember that I read once that some people believed muslims were preparing some kind of biological attack (antrax-like) that would make people gay.

 

[Totenkindly]

Hey, that makes me remember that I read once that some people believed muslims were preparing some kind of biological attack (antrax-like) that would make people gay.

Lol, you're right, I had totally forgotten about that!

however, i do find it a difficult concept to grasp, the idea of Genetic Sexuality...*sigh* it doesn't seem like a predetermined thing to me, but something you develop...i guess...BAH I DON'T KNOW! such a hard topic to decide on! it guess it has to be a genetic thing, coz for the most part, it seems predetermined!

As far as having homosexual feelings goes, that is definitely not a choice. (The social stigma is so enormous, still, in many ways that the feelings need to be intense to run counter to social norms or to leave one feeling so miserable when one does not express them.)

With issues like this, there is no yet proven genetic pathway, and it's probably a combination of genetics working together that then leave one open to some environment influences as well. Many people share the same social/family experiences homosexuals do growing up, but never end up experiencing a gay sexual preference.

Even with the "ex-gays," from the surveys done later with them, the preferences still exist; usually what they learn to do is control the behavior and expression of the preferences, but the preferences don't really seem to disappear or completely flip over. Some become celibate, which to me also shows the preferences have not changed but only the behavior. it's also hard to determine whether someone is "gay" or just "bi," in a situation where they seem to adjust well to a "straight" life.

 

[ajblaise]

Hey, that makes me remember that I read once that some people believed muslims were preparing some kind of biological attack (antrax-like) that would make people gay.

They already have that, it's called a Barbara Streisand record.

 

[anii]

ha ha, you mean, no "double buddy system" just to avoid the insinuation?

What about two buddies putting an empty seat between them at the cinema? How pathetic is that? As if the rest of us cinema-goers even care.

 

[Totenkindly]

What about two buddies putting an empty seat between them at the cinema? How pathetic is that? As if the rest of us cinema-goers even care.

You should study instinctive male urinal etiquette, it's definitely along the same lines.

 

[Grayscale]

i have a childhood friend who i found out was gay about a year ago... it was interesting because he always had a lot of female friends, but it never seemed like he had a physical attraction to men. considering that, ive wondered if the only reason he decided to identify himself as gay was because his interaction with the females around him was never sexual in nature. apparently he has a boyfriend but i always wondered if that was how it started.

 

[Eldanen]

i have a childhood friend who i found out was gay about a year ago... it was interesting because he always had a lot of female friends, but it never seemed like he had a physical attraction to men. considering that, ive wondered if the only reason he decided to identify himself as gay was because his interaction with the females around him was never sexual in nature. apparently he has a boyfriend but i always wondered if that was how it started.

How would you tell if he had a physical attraction to men? With me it's kinda obvious in the way I smile at them, but it might not be so with some.

 

[Grayscale]

How would you tell if he had a physical attraction to men? With me it's kinda obvious in the way I smile at them, but it might not be so with some.

when we were growing up there was never any sort of awkwardness between him and any of his other male friends and myself. it was so long ago its hard to say for sure, but i remember him expressing physical attraction towards women on a few occasions... he was always a little fruity but if anything i considered him a lucky guy to have so many female friends. i just wondered if he had really been hiding a physical attraction towards men or if he psychologically created that due to his relation to females.