I was wondering do type 3 6 and 9 all merge with others to fulfil their needs.As a 9 personally I tend to find myself merging with others to avoid conflict and separation by taking on their agendas and needs so that I am not causing any conflict.
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01-07-2018, 10:41 AM #1
Attachment triad and merging with others.
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01-07-2018, 11:23 AM #2
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So you just give up the pussy whenever someone takes any grievance with you Cat?
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01-07-2018, 11:48 AM #3
I don't think I merge
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01-07-2018, 04:39 PM #4
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I merge but I can't be sure whether it's the 6 or the sx or something else. I'm very choosy with the merging because I lack trust, and the end result for me isn't conflict avoidance like it is with 9s. It's security. I think 3s merge socially by adopting an image accepted by cultural paradigm.
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01-08-2018, 12:07 AM #5
I choose my battles. So I merge without really merging, 'cause I'll seperate any time I feel I need/have to, I will look out to getting my needs fullfilled (as well as what I can do for others in that area), but I do here and there let small things just slide and overlook them because getting your pants in a knot over every darn small thing is frigging annoying and would probably annoy me too, if they other one would act that way.
So, no merging. Just in the best case, two different identities getting closer without losing their individuality in the process.
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I did sometimes wonder if I might have a 9 in my tritype, but after that being said, I think I can pack that file up and close it for good.
I wish we were all rose-colored too
My rose-colored boy
You say, "We gotta look on the bright side"
I say, "Well, maybe if you wanna go blind"
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