I have a hard time understanding what being a 9w8 would mean. 9 and 8 seem like polar opposites to me. 9w1 I can kind of relate to, because those two methods of internalizing anger seem more related to one another. Does it have something to do with how you relate to the idea of peace? Are 9w8 folks just angrier in general?
Calling all 9w8's...
Um, [MENTION=9310]uumlau[/MENTION], [MENTION=19700]Starcrash[/MENTION]?
These do seem highly contradictory, but I would guess that 9w8's just have an inclination to desire to be more externally present in their environment than 9w1's do. Therefore when they do feel that distance between them caused by 9, in order to potentially be heard if they value the situation highly enough, they revert to the most solid image that they can imagine-8. I don't know though. Hopefully someone comes and helps me out with this.
There is no contradiction. Remember, 9s aren't really "not angry". They're good at suppressing it or forgetting it, because we don't like feeling it. But when it is finally expressed, for whatever reason, there are only two ways it can come out in terms of Enneagram: the 8 way, forceful and direct, and the 1 way, which is more indirect, but generally very critical.
Insofar as the 8 way is concerned, for a 9w8, it is definitely an overall rage (kind of Hulk-like, as one has suggested). Ironically, when this happened to me recently, I was as much angry about being pushed hard enough that I was forced to be angry, not just the particular thing that I was angry about. Also, I didn't immediately realize I was angry, at first. I had to ponder about it for a while. Once I realized I was angry, and started letting it out, I was really f-cking pissed off. I did inform the person who made me angry that I was angry. (We 9s don't always do that. I had to consciously choose to do it.) When the target of my ire ended up doing the same kind of thing
again later that week, there was no pause in the anger: I was livid. I was ready to do violence - or at least toss my cup of water into the person's face. I had to immediately get out of that environment, because I couldn't trust myself interacting with people at the time.
The result of my anger was a fairly long email, expressing in detail what I was angry about, why I was angry, and setting boundaries. This is/was a close friend of mine, and the friendship may well be over. The funny thing is, I'm not sad or regretful about it. The thing I was angry about is absolutely unacceptable in a friendship (lying, and not little white lies, and a repeated pattern of lying about a particular topic over and over again). If this is what they're like when push comes to shove, then I'd be ill advised to rely on or otherwise trust them as I had been. I even understand why they did what they did, and I am fairly sure that they'd do it again in spite of their denials.
I feel good for having stood up for myself, and not letting things slide. I'm not angry any more, either. It got expressed, made me do what I needed to do, and it's done.
John Dryden said:
Oh that my Pow'r to Saving were confin’d:
Why am I forc’d, like Heav’n, against my mind,
To make Examples of another Kind?
Must I at length the Sword of Justice draw?
Oh curst Effects of necessary Law!
How ill my Fear they by my Mercy scan,
Beware the Fury of a Patient Man.