1) What is your type (5w4 or 5w6) and instinctual variant, and how positive are you that your variant is accurate?
I'm 5w4. I haven't been studying instinct variants for long but for now I think I'm sp/sx.
2) How would you describe your overall focus when alone versus in social situations?
I cherish my time alone. I'm sure I'm not special in this regard though. Obviously when by myself, I don't have to spend much energy catering to another person. One thing I will mention is that I'm probably
too comfortable alone...to the point where I can't seriously imagine myself in a close relationship where I have to share myself, my time and my own comfort. I think I'm more selfish than most people in that regard.
3) How would you describe your interaction style when in a group?
Like many others here, I'm never the centre of attention unless someone does it for me. I'm a smiling observer who is naturally invisible. Though I sometimes wonder why I'm "not like other people", I don't try hard to fit in groups, nor do I deliberately separate myself. "Fitting in" is just not something I'm too interested in and never really felt pressured about. I just accept the fact that I don't fit in like others and focus on more
relevant/worthy areas in my life.
On the other hand, I love family groups and family get-togethers but perhaps that is Sx rather than So.
4) How would you describe your interaction style in one-on-one situations?
I ask a lot of questions, sometimes enthusiastically. People
do love talking about themselves and I take advantage of that. It does depend on my chemistry with the other person, but I'm rather good at making others feel like they themselves are really fascinating...which they often are. (Often, it's nice when there's a 3rd person so there's less pressure and more things to bounce off of.) I myself don't reveal much.
I must point out that I don't have any best or close friends that I can tell deep dark secrets to. I just don't trust anyone enough...and it's this same reason that I have never been intimate with anyone. It's something I secretly desire but no one knows because for some reason, I put on a front that I don't NEED a special someone.
5) How well does this description of your variant fit you?
It fits me well. But this line from the So/Sp description:
"They can really be content to adopt the role of “people watcher,†but they do it from a closer and closer perspective. Their blind spot revolves around the fact that they tend to convince themselves they can get along just fine in the observer role. It does feel safer to them" fits me uncannily...although it could be describing an Sp/Sx too.
6) How did you decide on your variant? Was there anything that gave it away, or else made you change your mind from what you previously thought it was?
I made a thread about it here. It was helpful when [MENTION=5632]VagrantFarce[/MENTION] here said a Sx person can seem asexual or reluctant towards intimacy. I'm extremely frigid when it comes to the idea of even being
thought of as sexual, and I have an invisible wall to keep people from coming too close. These are strong thoughts/instincts withint me and seems to support my Sx variant rather than not. On the other hand, I think my social instinct is last because, well, it just don't bother me or occupy my thoughts much.