EJCC
The Devil of TypoC
- Joined
- Aug 29, 2008
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- ESTJ
- Enneagram
- 1w9
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/so
I believe I still agree with this, nearly 9 years later. But I would phrase it differently (more clearly?) now.In terms of interpersonal dislike, I don't care if I have to work with someone I hate who is okay with me (because I can very easily set that hatred aside so the job can get done and we can work together and things won't get awkward), but I do care if the person hates me and I like them okay, because I feel really awkward about it, because it's usually pretty easy to tell that they hate me.
Is that related to being a 1w2? Do any of you relate?
I hate it when people who matter don't think highly of me. I feel mortified if their reasons for feeling that way are good, and I feel angry and wronged if their reasons are bad.
In the workplace, if a coworker who dislikes me is mature enough to not make it a Thing, I have no problem working with them, and like [MENTION=32520]thepumpkinpot[/MENTION] said, I don't necessarily need to be best friends with my coworkers. Nowadays I wouldn't have much trouble talking to them if their feelings got in the way of us working together - it would obviously be uncomfortable, but not as uncomfortable as allowing the situation to continue. If they disrespected me, that would be different, and even more infuriating - and I would take it seriously to the point of potentially asking my supervisor for input and help backing me up.
Things get more stereotypically 2 when it comes to people in my personal life. If all my friends like someone and I don't, or if I like someone and they don't like me, and I don't know why that's the case, it's like an itch that I can't scratch. I obsess over it until I can find the reason we're not compatible. And it's only when either 1) I fix the incompatibility, or 2) I accept that we're not compatible, that I feel better.