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[Type 1] 1w2 Type

EJCC

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In terms of interpersonal dislike, I don't care if I have to work with someone I hate who is okay with me (because I can very easily set that hatred aside so the job can get done and we can work together and things won't get awkward), but I do care if the person hates me and I like them okay, because I feel really awkward about it, because it's usually pretty easy to tell that they hate me.

Is that related to being a 1w2? Do any of you relate?
I believe I still agree with this, nearly 9 years later. But I would phrase it differently (more clearly?) now.

I hate it when people who matter don't think highly of me. I feel mortified if their reasons for feeling that way are good, and I feel angry and wronged if their reasons are bad.

In the workplace, if a coworker who dislikes me is mature enough to not make it a Thing, I have no problem working with them, and like [MENTION=32520]thepumpkinpot[/MENTION] said, I don't necessarily need to be best friends with my coworkers. Nowadays I wouldn't have much trouble talking to them if their feelings got in the way of us working together - it would obviously be uncomfortable, but not as uncomfortable as allowing the situation to continue. If they disrespected me, that would be different, and even more infuriating - and I would take it seriously to the point of potentially asking my supervisor for input and help backing me up.

Things get more stereotypically 2 when it comes to people in my personal life. If all my friends like someone and I don't, or if I like someone and they don't like me, and I don't know why that's the case, it's like an itch that I can't scratch. I obsess over it until I can find the reason we're not compatible. And it's only when either 1) I fix the incompatibility, or 2) I accept that we're not compatible, that I feel better.
 

AStrange~Nostalgia

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I believe I still agree with this, nearly 9 years later. But I would phrase it differently (more clearly?) now.

I hate it when people who matter don't think highly of me. I feel mortified if their reasons for feeling that way are good, and I feel angry and wronged if their reasons are bad.

In the workplace, if a coworker who dislikes me is mature enough to not make it a Thing, I have no problem working with them, and like [MENTION=32520]thepumpkinpot[/MENTION] said, I don't necessarily need to be best friends with my coworkers. Nowadays I wouldn't have much trouble talking to them if their feelings got in the way of us working together - it would obviously be uncomfortable, but not as uncomfortable as allowing the situation to continue. If they disrespected me, that would be different, and even more infuriating - and I would take it seriously to the point of potentially asking my supervisor for input and help backing me up.

Things get more stereotypically 2 when it comes to people in my personal life. If all my friends like someone and I don't, or if I like someone and they don't like me, and I don't know why that's the case, it's like an itch that I can't scratch. I obsess over it until I can find the reason we're not compatible. And it's only when either 1) I fix the incompatibility, or 2) I accept that we're not compatible, that I feel better.

How often do you find people compatible with you or like you back ?
Do you think 1w2 can be socially awkward to a certain level?
And do you think it's common for 1w2 to have social anxiety or prone to it?
:Dhope it isn't too far from the subject. But I'm recently interested in that.
 

EJCC

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How often do you find people compatible with you or like you back ?
I find that I am generally very well-liked - or at least well-respected. Part of why I zero in on it when people don’t like me is because that’s so rare.

That said - I’m pretty choosy about friends. Partially because I have high standards, but also because I’m kind of a weirdo and it’s hard to find people with a compatible variety of weird to mine. (Clearly I have a 4 trifix.)

Do you think 1w2 can be socially awkward to a certain level?
And do you think it's common for 1w2 to have social anxiety or prone to it?
:Dhope it isn't too far from the subject. But I'm recently interested in that.
I’m not sure. I have anxiety, in general, and I think that when 1s have anxiety it can manifest as control issues. I tend to be anxious about group dynamics when they don’t go well, and I have had socially anxious moments during generally anxious periods - i.e. periods when anxiety seeps into most of my thought processes - but I wouldn’t say that I have social anxiety.
 
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