[Traditional Enneagram] Have you ever been mistyped as a different enneagram? If so than which ones?

[Sil]

I've mistyped as a three and one before. Turns out I have a strong competency fix.

 

[AprilLily1984]

Yes a 7w6. I can still relate to it quite a lot, and its the second part of my tritype. 4w3 is definitely me overall though. That was what I first tested as, and what I currently test as.

 

[Chad of the OttomanEmpire]

The egregious one was typing as 6. This happened on PerC because everyone told me I was, and I figured better to just type that way than to always be accused of living in denial. They didn't let me change it, either, when I could no longer keep lying to myself and told everyone I wasn't a 6.

The other big one was discarding sx-first because I'm Not Sexy/Attractive Enough and Every Other Sx-First Is. Call me a silly rabbit.

 

[GloriaInExcelsisDeo]

Most people say I was a 5w6 in my youth.

 

[Amargith]

I get 9, 7 and 2 on occasion

9 and 7 are part of my tritype and 4 disintegrates into 2, so it makes sense

 

[magpie]

4. Always 4 sp/sx.

 

[biohazard]

Yeah as 6w5 CP.

 

[neko 4]

I scored as a 5 on one test. IMO, I'm too sentimental and romantic to be a 5.

 

[misfortuneteller]

I mistyped as a 4w5 but i've come to realize that i'm a 9w1. I think my INFPness is what confused me as being a 4 and a lot of people stereotype 9's as being these laid-back doormats which will only make people not want to identify as that type.

 

[Ghost]

4. Always 4 sp/sx.

I think my INFPness is what confused me as being a 4

It's all too easy for Fi-doms to mistype as 4s. I did that myself.

I suspect there are plenty of 6s and 5s among the IxFPs, but they get folded into 4 or 9.

 

[Seymour]

I originally narrowed things down to 4, 5 and 9. Soon after I went to an enneagram workshop that had "type tables", which made it easy to sit down and experience the dynamics of the various types. That cleared things up pretty quickly.

Addendum: I confess that INFP 6 seems like one of the odder combinations to wrap my mind around... since it seems like Fi leads to a kind of assurance of one's own inner authority, but type 6s seem to not be in touch with that part of themselves.

 

[Lady Lazarus]

6w5. 4w3 with strange frequency given how un-4w3 I am. 1w9 was definitely the oddest though.

Ultimately, however, my assertiveness doesn't disqualify me from being e9.

 

[burningranger]

I typed as a 7w8 initially...and then later 8w7...the 7 was because I'm an ENFP, and as all ENFPs am fun loving to unimaginable degrees when I feel I can be,...and the 8 is because I'm a bit guarded emotionally.

These days I don't put much stock in the enneagram to be perfectly honest. I can see myself in every type and I think that's as it should be for everyone...the whole point is that they are merely facets of our....well multifacetedness. In the end our TRUE core wound is basically the same regardless of any type...so the Enneagream is valuable but only to identify with your most common patterns up until the point you discover your ego strcuture is completely maliable (since most of us are brought up to believe we are this or that kind of person..even at a suboncsious level).

Most people go through their whole lives (and beyond) believing themselves to be their ego....and are completely unware of the extent to which a human being can actally change. In my opinion this is the true meaning behind many personalitiy disorders...nothing wrong with the person...they are just a way of piercing through the illusion of our personalities to see how humans beings actually are behind our labored seemingly "static" facades.

Anyone who has meditated and seenthemselves as part from ALL of their thoughts and feelings and conditioned traits, will know what I'm talking about.

See the 8 wing is measuring my guardedness...but if tomorrow I allow myself to go beyond that pattern...I won't score as an 8 anymore...so was I really ever an 8?
No...the person evolves IMMENSELY during their lives...if they are conscious and not merely subject to their conditioned mental/emotional patterns (usually based on trauma and environmental forces).

Mind you...this is what makes the enneagram interesting...not disinteresting. But it is merely a tool for self-awareness, nothing more.

 

[Peter Deadpan]

6w5. 4w3 with strange frequency given how un-4w3 I am. 1w9 was definitely the oddest though.

Ultimately, however, my assertiveness doesn't disqualify me from being e9.

Can you explain this to me? Are you a 9w8? Trying to wrap my head around 9s.

 

[Lady Lazarus]

Can you explain this to me? Are you a 9w8? Trying to wrap my head around 9s.

It's possible. But I would be very atypical.

Essentially, E9 isn't defined as necessarily afraid of conflict, we're afraid of loss and separation (as in, this is our core fear). Which often coincides with conflict but is ultimately not the same thing.

For example, I find it easy to fight with people I either:

a)Do not care about whatsoever.
b)Feel I have a very strong bond with.

This is because I am not bonded with a and I am so bonded with b I do not fear separation or loss. In either case.

The times I will stay quiet and passive despite being angry are marked by uncertainty. It is when I feel I inhabit a grey area with someone that I cannot fight with them. Because I know our bonds are (still) fragile and we will sever but I also do not completely fail to care about them and thus, do fear separation.

So yes, I can be assertive because most people do not fall into the grey area for me. Uncertainty is more a part of loss and separation than conflict itself in my opinion. And of course on the slightly narrower level, there's also the link to 6 factor at play in myself as mentioned to me by someone else.

Please tell me if this is insufficient or unclear and I'll try another approach.

 

[Hiraeth]

Never for my core, but I have mistyped as a different wing before.

I typed as a 4w5 for a time when I first came across the enneagram because I almost always test as one due to my very introverted, hermit-like self. I never thought a 3 wing was a possibility because of the various descriptions depicting 4w3s as extroverted and dramatic to where they come off a bit like a 7, which I do not relate to at all.

My behavior is more aligned with a 4w5 and I can relate to 4w5s a lot for that reason, plus a large number of artists I'm fascinated with are 4w5s themselves. So it was a toss-up for me, and I still wonder if I can be a balanced wing, but deep down my desires and fears are more closely aligned with a core 3 rather than a core 5. I do like learning and accumulating knowledge from areas of my interest, but it's not as high of a priority for me than achieving something for myself in the long run. I find knowledge for the sake of knowledge a waste if you don't make something big out if it. So that is why I believe I am a 4w3, but a very introverted one.

I also have to take note that I am an sp/sx in instinctual stacking and an artist that works alone often, so that is why I tend to be a lot more introverted than the typical 4w3. I have a tendency to keep to myself than seek out various group organizations and am uncomfortable about networking (something I admit I can't be bothered to do, although I know I'm going to have to force myself eventually, as that is the name of the game in this modern era when one is involved in a creative profession).

In addition, I think most 4w3 descriptions coincide with the so variant, since 3 seems very dominant so in nature, which is why I don't relate to those descriptions much as they seem a bit amplified in the 3 department. My more friendly, image conscious demeanor comes from my 3 wing and from having 9w1 in my tritype. I am also not as detached as a 5 wing would be, since admittedly I do care to some degree what people think of me.

And I believe in staying true to one's craft and avoiding commercialism as much as possible, as many 4w3 descriptions state that they are a bit shallower compared to their 4w5 counterparts. I believe that one can be sincere and authentic and make their art into a career if they have the talent and creativity to boot. I am a 4 afterall, so there has to be that 'authentic' factor before 'selling out.'

In the end, it all comes down to basic desires and fears and what resonates with you the most.

 

[Hiraeth]

Okay, a quick update.

I changed my enneagram status again, but this time I'm just keeping the core without the wing and instinctual stacking. I took multiple tests and kept getting 4w5 so/sp, with the 3 wing very further down in ranking. I definitely oscillate between the contra flow instinctual stackings of sp/sx and so/sp, as I usually test as either of those. I still wonder about the possibility of being so-dom because I tend to be aware of status and would desire it for myself, but the only thing is I HATE groups and being around lots of people in general, so I'm still unsure. I also would hate to gain a bad reputation and try to avoid it as much as possible, which seems very so-dom.

Additionally, I am conflicted about whether I am sx-like because in reality I am not needy enough to seek being in a relationship with someone and am very independant overall. Plus, I don't have super close relationships with people in general and even have a tendency to flee away if things get too intense. However, I do 'look' pretty sx due to my fashion sense and am comfortable enough to wear skimpy clothes every so often. I also like taking care of my appearance and exercising frequently. So I usually test pretty equally on each of the variants because I can relate to all of them to some degree.

Plus, aren't so-doms social people, at least with a 4w3 typing? It would occur to me that way, but I'm not sure. Also, my 4w5 test results keep me wondering about having balanced wings still, even if I can relate to the desires and fears of a 3 very much. So I'm just going to keep my core listed for now because I know for sure I am a 4 with 100% certainty. Although I'll probably end up changing my wings and instinctual stacking soon again anyway. I can never make up my damn mind.

 

[RadicalDoubt]

Tests always scored me really high on 5 and 6, so I was certain I was a 5w6 so/sp or a 6w5 sp/so. Although I still relate to a lot of the 5 descriptions still, my personality is colored a bit more brightly than traditional 5 descriptions, so I'm going with 9w1 sp/so

 

[RadicalDoubt]

Okay, a quick update.

I changed my enneagram status again, but this time I'm just keeping the core without the wing and instinctual stacking. I took multiple tests and kept getting 4w5 so/sp, with the 3 wing very further down in ranking. I definitely oscillate between the contra flow instinctual stackings of sp/sx and so/sp, as I usually test as either of those. I still wonder about the possibility of being so-dom because I tend to be aware of status and would desire it for myself, but the only thing is I HATE groups and being around lots of people in general, so I'm still unsure. I also would hate to gain a bad reputation and try to avoid it as much as possible, which seems very so-dom.

Additionally, I am conflicted about whether I am sx-like because in reality I am not needy enough to seek being in a relationship with someone and am very independant overall. Plus, I don't have super close relationships with people in general and even have a tendency to flee away if things get too intense. However, I do 'look' pretty sx due to my fashion sense and am comfortable enough to wear skimpy clothes every so often. I also like taking care of my appearance and exercising frequently. So I usually test pretty equally on each of the variants because I can relate to all of them to some degree.

Plus, aren't so-doms social people, at least with a 4w3 typing? It would occur to me that way, but I'm not sure. Also, my 4w5 test results keep me wondering about having balanced wings still, even if I can relate to the desires and fears of a 3 very much. So I'm just going to keep my core listed for now because I know for sure I am a 4 with 100% certainty. Although I'll probably end up changing my wings and instinctual stacking soon again anyway. I can never make up my damn mind.

What you wrote here sounds very so/sp and not so much sp/sx. So doms aren't necessarily social people, some are, and some are completely asocial, you have a bit of a range there. Especially with a 4 as a core type, which is the most withdrawn type in enneagram, 4 so/sp wouldn't be that social. the 3 wing might make them a bit more social, but not that much. SO blinds tend to be unaware of group dynamics and tend to have a brasher tonality when speaking (unless they specifically have high Fe or something to balance that out). Someone could describe it far better, but at least that's how I've interpreted it.

 

[Hiraeth]

What you wrote here sounds very so/sp and not so much sp/sx. So doms aren't necessarily social people, some are, and some are completely asocial, you have a bit of a range there. Especially with a 4 as a core type, which is the most withdrawn type in enneagram, 4 so/sp wouldn't be that social. the 3 wing might make them a bit more social, but not that much. SO blinds tend to be unaware of group dynamics and tend to have a brasher tonality when speaking (unless they specifically have high Fe or something to balance that out). Someone could describe it far better, but at least that's how I've interpreted it.

Okay, thank you! This cleared up plenty.

I've been reading up on the so/sp instinctual type and it makes sense. I think there's a part of me that doesn't want to admit to being so-dom and thinking it's all about being social, but I now presume it's really about being aware of your place in social situations? Like a 4 would feel even more out of place and shameful in social situations due to the differences a 4 may feel among others in a group setting, which I unfortunately relate to a lot if that is the case. Thus, why many with this stacking tend to be very self-conscious, which I am, and may even come off like a phobic 6 at times, which I also relate to and have in my tritype. I just always thought I couldn't be anything else but an sp-dom due to being very withdrawn for a wing 3, which seems to go against the 4w3 stereotype of being one of the more extroverted 4s, which I most definitely AM NOT. I think this is also why I've been hesitant to list this as my type- because I felt that I would be putting up a false front.

Plus, the lack of sx stuff in my life is very apparent. It's not something I naturally seek, but more like something I fantasize about. Once I have the opportunity to finally do so with someone else, I get scared and run away because it's not what I would have pictured in my mind, and I don't want to go through with a reality that won't be how I envision it, so I'd rather keep to myself and dream about it instead. Holy shit, this is all too real.

I have now reenacted my enneagram type. Thanks again!

EDIT: After trying this instinctual type out for less than a few hours, it just feels wrong. The thing is, I do fine on one-on-ones, but it's my sp that makes me flee away when getting too close to people. I am horrific in groups and am not a politician type at all. I'm more of a withdrawn George Harrison/Syd Barrett type. Plus, can't count the numerous times I've been told I live under a rock. I could care less what is trending and whatnot. Also, I don't come off friendly like an so/sp does in reality. I can actually be kind of blunt and appear uncaring at times. Like an annoyed Jane Lane. So yeah, back on the sp/sx train again.