OneLovelyAdventure
Gryffindor Prefect
- Joined
- Nov 10, 2014
- Messages
- 139
- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 378
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
I am an ENFP 3w2 whose instinct is to open up to people and invite them into my life with warm enthusiasm. I am naturally gregarious and lively. However, the older I get, the more I close myself off to people, and I think I know why. I am absolutely terrified of showing any weaknesses, vulnerabilities, or insecurities. I have to appear to everyone as though I've got it all figured out, that I'm tough and capable and unflappable and independent. As soon as the discussion turns to deeper feelings, I pretend I don't have any.
Do other 3s have this problem? It's starting to become a real challenge for me, and I feel very lonely very often. As soon as I sense myself getting close to people, I notice myself pulling back out of fear of revealing too many flaws or imperfections about my character. I value my self-sufficient and in-charge image so much that I have learned to subconsciously ignore my instincts in order to maintain my well-developed, carefully-constructed, and always-prominent exterior self.
Like I said, do any other 3s do this? Particularly Exxx or ExFx 3s.
Do other 3s have this problem? It's starting to become a real challenge for me, and I feel very lonely very often. As soon as I sense myself getting close to people, I notice myself pulling back out of fear of revealing too many flaws or imperfections about my character. I value my self-sufficient and in-charge image so much that I have learned to subconsciously ignore my instincts in order to maintain my well-developed, carefully-constructed, and always-prominent exterior self.
Like I said, do any other 3s do this? Particularly Exxx or ExFx 3s.